it seems my husband's grandmother is not doing well in the hospital. my MIL is flying up to be with her husband as he has been with his mother during this time....he told her to take clothes for a funeral. so we are preparing for the worst.
it seems a bit petty of me but i was wondering, since i have never met my husband's grandmother, how could we celebrate her life. is sending flowers and a card of sympathy enough to show how much we care about everyone's loss.
we are flying to the dakota's from south tx. over the thanksgiving holidays and i have never met my husband of three years family. just my father in law's brothers and sisters. i know his immediate family and my mother in law's family.
anyway....i want to be respectful and kind and thoughtful and make a good impression.
i'd send a bouquet of blue irises, that is my favorite flower, and a card from our family. is there anything else i can do? we can't just go and join them for a funeral.
Funeral help?
Send flowers and a card to the family for the funeral, and send a personal card to your MIL and her husband to let them know if there is anything they need, you'll be there to help them out.
Reply:Your husband should go to the funeral - He should fly up for that. You and the kids can stay home. Go to your local church and get a prayer card for the family and have your husband bring it with him.
Reply:Thats pretty much all you can do. Just be a good support group.
Reply:Flowers are always nice, as are cards. Also sending a gift certificate for food so they don't have to worry about cooking, even if it isn't that much money, is nice since cooking is the last thing you want to do after a funeral. Cowel lillies are pretty. Find out your husband's grandmother's favorite flower and send that instead if possible, that shows even more concern than just your favorite.
Reply:yeah flowers and a card is good.
Reply:yeah, flowers are nice. Unless they specify, don't send flowers, that is a good.
Reply:Just do the best you can. Flowers and a note expressing your sympathy will be good. If his family doesn't understand that you can't afford to fly your whole family up there then that's hardly your problem.
Reply:no matter what you do its always the thought that counts.
Reply:I agree that what you have already done is sufficient. More importantly, the appearance that you will make will mean so much more than just a few flowers %26amp; a card.
I will pray for her!!!
God Bless!!!
Reply:If that's all you can do and afford, then that has to be good enough. It's not like you went without a thought about things. If they don't appreciate it, too bad. I'm sure his grandmother would've if she realized your effort.
Reply:Do you have any family photos that your in-laws have never seen? Perhaps you could bring an album. If your grandmother is still conscious, she would probably love to see the photos too. Even if she can't respond, you can be telling her the stories behind each photo. Perhaps you could mount the photos so she could see them from her bed.
If she does pass while you are there, just be aware of ways in which you can help. There is so much to do around a funeral. Help write an obituary, contact family members, make a display board for the funeral of pictures of your grandmother's life, help do the cooking, answer the phone, greet people at the door, organize sympathy cards, volunteer to watch all the kids in a separate room (if there gets to be a houseful), etc. Your thoughtfulness will be noticed and appreciated.
Take care.
Reply:The flowers are good. Another idea is to call and ask the family for "grandma" stories and memories. Type them up and print out a little book for everyone.
Reply:I think that is enough... Just lettin them know theyre in your thoughts and prayers and you will always be there for whatever they need. I think thats the best thing you could ever do. Just being there for them is a whole lot!
Reply:I think what you did was nice.
Reply:Flowers are fine. You may also want to wait until the obituary appears in the paper. These days, you can access many newspapers on line and finding the obit may not be too difficult. I say this because the family may want donations to a charity rather than flowers.
But, flowers are appropriate any time. You are very kind to think of this.
Reply:Send flowers
write a personal letter once the death occurs (you can start working on it in advance) expressing your condolence, and making clear that while you would love to be able to attend the funeral, it's just not possible. If your husband can go, that is all that could be expected.
Reply:I would send HER favorite flower. Ask your husband, if he doesn't know then send her white or colorful flowers. Blue might be depressing.
Flowers and a card are enough. Shows you are concerned. Don't send too much - or it will look weird.
Reply:Sending flowers for the death of an elderly person is pretty standard. If you will be staying with them or spending time at the house of one of your family members, perhaps cooking a meal or something would be a warm gesture. Your heart is in the right place, it's just so much easier to accept the death of the elderly that there isn't much more you need to do than to be there for your family.
Perhaps you could suggest a memorial to a charity she worked with or a program at a church she attended or something of that nature.
Reply:give them a phone call and tell them that you're sorry for their loss
Reply:Flowers ... always flowers unless otherwise specified.
Friday, November 13, 2009
What is a proper show of condolence for a mother who lost her baby?
I work for an OB/GYN and one of my patients gave birth only a few months ago, but recently lost her baby due to complications of an illness. She and her husband are wonderful people and it shouldn't be a thing anyone has to go through. It has especially been getting to me since I heard the news this afternoon. She's coming back for an appointment soon, and I don't know what to do. I just lost my mom a few months back and although I cried everytime the phone rang from a relative or friend calling or opening a sympathy card, it really did help. I was thinking of getting her just some potting flowers or something as a small gesture of my condolence, but I'm not sure if it would be proper, or if I should do anything at all. Just trying to get some ideas.
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What is a proper show of condolence for a mother who lost her baby?
The best thing you can do is be kind to her. Getting her a gift might make her think the whole office is talking about her. That would be the first thing that would come to my mind if someone from my OB office gave me a gift like that. I would think if you were close to this person it would be okay. Otherwise it's best not to approach her about this subject as it is very sensitive. If she brings it up with you personally then you can talk with her about it. Otherwise no gifts.
Reply:Acknowledge her loss, even if u cry thats ok, its is SAD! I work as a midwife, when a baby dies I often cry too (and when I see them later down the street sometimes too) it shows u r human and that u feel for them in a real way. A littel gift or card is ok but ur thoughts and acceptance of them would mean more. Ur patients r lucky to have u!
Reply:the best thing you can do for them is to give them a child.... which you can't really do ... if you work in a hospital.. you must be also in touch with persons who wanna go for an abortion... then am sure that you can do something for them to become parents...... i know it's a hard job but if you are a nice person am sure that you will surely try your best in solving the problem
Reply:Flowers, a card, a hug, anything. that would really mean a lot to the family. just show that you care, that you are doing more than just doing your job, that you actually care for the patients.
Reply:I lost my son last year. I get it. You have the right idea. Also make a donation to the hospital in the babies honor. or get and in memory ornament. Make her a bracelet and put always ________'s Mom. She will know you care.
Reply:if she was a friend I would say a rose bush. But if she is a patient it may not be appropriate
Reply:We all get that overwhelming urge to try to think of something to do or say in situations like that; and there isn't much anyone can really do or say.
I think a nice, tasteful, simple, card (maybe with a little simple prayer if you think she's the type) or a "thinking of you" card with something like, "If there's anything at all I can do", may be all you can do.
I think any gesture is proper for the most part. She'll know what you're trying to tell her.
Reply:I can tell that you genuinely care for this woman, but the most I would do is offer her verbal condolences. It sounds like you have a professional/patient relationship with her. You have a legal and moral obligation to protect her confidentiality. It seems crazy, but with all the HIPPA laws, I'd hate for someone to misconstrue your well intentioned gift or card. Talk it over with the OB before you do anything. She may value her confidentiality at the doc's office and not having to discuss her grief as she does with famiy and friends.
Reply:When you see her, look her in the eye and say kindly "I'm so sorry for your loss." That's what a mother most needs to hear at such a time. I know because I suffered a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. Then I went on to have 3 healthy pregnancies. But it hurt me most when people wanted to gloss over my loss and my pain. Its kindest to acknowledge the loss directly and express your sorrow over it directly to her.
Give her a beautiful card with an offer to help out in any way necessary. You can pass it around to the other employees in the Dr.'s office and have everyone sign it. You could take up a collection of $5 per person and buy her and her husband an engraved picture frame with her child's name on it. It will be a keepsake of her few precious memories of her child. She can place a picture she took of her baby before he/she passed away in the frame. Most mothers need to feel the child they lost is remembered.
The idea of the flowers is lovely. I'm sure that would mean a great deal to her. You can also find books about grief and recovering from the loss of a child through Amazon, you may want to buy her one.
You and your coworkers could attend the funeral and there pass around a sign up sheet for the other ladies to offer to bring her dinner every night for two weeks after the funeral in order to comfort her and allow her and her husband to grieve without worrying over cooking and cleanup at dinner time. They might not eat properly if no one sees to that so that is the most important advice, give them the gift of prepared meals. This is going to be such a heartbreakingly difficult time for this poor Mommy.
Reply:Personally, I would just let it be and not say anything. This happened to my friend last month and from the things I have learned is that the parents are so overwhelmed with condolences that they get rather fed up with them and just want to move on and come to peace with it, without everyone trying to feel for them all the time. I never said anything and just told her that if she ever needed to talk then I was there, and if she wanted to hang out I was here and it was going to be up to her if we talked about it at all. So, I always wait for her to bring it up. If she comes in and brings it up, then say something nice but I wouldn't do anything else. I know that it hurts, and I am so sorry you are going through this, I know the pain, but we have to let these mothers be strong. The fact that we need to give, in order to feel comfortable with this, isn't always the answer. Godbless you.
Reply:i honestly have no idea what would be the best thing for them. i don't know that anyone would since everyone heals differently, but i do have one thought. perhaps she may need people to treat her normally, as if nothing has changed between you. while she may be trying to get her mind off of it, others are probably constantly reminding her. but i certainly don't want to suggest something that would come off as offensive. my heart goes out to this family, and i hope that someone will be able to offer some more useful advice.
Reply:I think that the best thing you can do is ask her if she's doing alright, if there's anything that you could help with or anything that she needs. Offer your friendship. Give her your phone number and tell her she can call anytime if she needs someone to talk to.
If you want to buy her something maybe a necklace. There's this great one "Mother Embrace" You can get her it with her child's birthstone in it. http://www.limogesjewelry.com/custom.asp...
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What is a proper show of condolence for a mother who lost her baby?
The best thing you can do is be kind to her. Getting her a gift might make her think the whole office is talking about her. That would be the first thing that would come to my mind if someone from my OB office gave me a gift like that. I would think if you were close to this person it would be okay. Otherwise it's best not to approach her about this subject as it is very sensitive. If she brings it up with you personally then you can talk with her about it. Otherwise no gifts.
Reply:Acknowledge her loss, even if u cry thats ok, its is SAD! I work as a midwife, when a baby dies I often cry too (and when I see them later down the street sometimes too) it shows u r human and that u feel for them in a real way. A littel gift or card is ok but ur thoughts and acceptance of them would mean more. Ur patients r lucky to have u!
Reply:the best thing you can do for them is to give them a child.... which you can't really do ... if you work in a hospital.. you must be also in touch with persons who wanna go for an abortion... then am sure that you can do something for them to become parents...... i know it's a hard job but if you are a nice person am sure that you will surely try your best in solving the problem
Reply:Flowers, a card, a hug, anything. that would really mean a lot to the family. just show that you care, that you are doing more than just doing your job, that you actually care for the patients.
Reply:I lost my son last year. I get it. You have the right idea. Also make a donation to the hospital in the babies honor. or get and in memory ornament. Make her a bracelet and put always ________'s Mom. She will know you care.
Reply:if she was a friend I would say a rose bush. But if she is a patient it may not be appropriate
Reply:We all get that overwhelming urge to try to think of something to do or say in situations like that; and there isn't much anyone can really do or say.
I think a nice, tasteful, simple, card (maybe with a little simple prayer if you think she's the type) or a "thinking of you" card with something like, "If there's anything at all I can do", may be all you can do.
I think any gesture is proper for the most part. She'll know what you're trying to tell her.
Reply:I can tell that you genuinely care for this woman, but the most I would do is offer her verbal condolences. It sounds like you have a professional/patient relationship with her. You have a legal and moral obligation to protect her confidentiality. It seems crazy, but with all the HIPPA laws, I'd hate for someone to misconstrue your well intentioned gift or card. Talk it over with the OB before you do anything. She may value her confidentiality at the doc's office and not having to discuss her grief as she does with famiy and friends.
Reply:When you see her, look her in the eye and say kindly "I'm so sorry for your loss." That's what a mother most needs to hear at such a time. I know because I suffered a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. Then I went on to have 3 healthy pregnancies. But it hurt me most when people wanted to gloss over my loss and my pain. Its kindest to acknowledge the loss directly and express your sorrow over it directly to her.
Give her a beautiful card with an offer to help out in any way necessary. You can pass it around to the other employees in the Dr.'s office and have everyone sign it. You could take up a collection of $5 per person and buy her and her husband an engraved picture frame with her child's name on it. It will be a keepsake of her few precious memories of her child. She can place a picture she took of her baby before he/she passed away in the frame. Most mothers need to feel the child they lost is remembered.
The idea of the flowers is lovely. I'm sure that would mean a great deal to her. You can also find books about grief and recovering from the loss of a child through Amazon, you may want to buy her one.
You and your coworkers could attend the funeral and there pass around a sign up sheet for the other ladies to offer to bring her dinner every night for two weeks after the funeral in order to comfort her and allow her and her husband to grieve without worrying over cooking and cleanup at dinner time. They might not eat properly if no one sees to that so that is the most important advice, give them the gift of prepared meals. This is going to be such a heartbreakingly difficult time for this poor Mommy.
Reply:Personally, I would just let it be and not say anything. This happened to my friend last month and from the things I have learned is that the parents are so overwhelmed with condolences that they get rather fed up with them and just want to move on and come to peace with it, without everyone trying to feel for them all the time. I never said anything and just told her that if she ever needed to talk then I was there, and if she wanted to hang out I was here and it was going to be up to her if we talked about it at all. So, I always wait for her to bring it up. If she comes in and brings it up, then say something nice but I wouldn't do anything else. I know that it hurts, and I am so sorry you are going through this, I know the pain, but we have to let these mothers be strong. The fact that we need to give, in order to feel comfortable with this, isn't always the answer. Godbless you.
Reply:i honestly have no idea what would be the best thing for them. i don't know that anyone would since everyone heals differently, but i do have one thought. perhaps she may need people to treat her normally, as if nothing has changed between you. while she may be trying to get her mind off of it, others are probably constantly reminding her. but i certainly don't want to suggest something that would come off as offensive. my heart goes out to this family, and i hope that someone will be able to offer some more useful advice.
Reply:I think that the best thing you can do is ask her if she's doing alright, if there's anything that you could help with or anything that she needs. Offer your friendship. Give her your phone number and tell her she can call anytime if she needs someone to talk to.
If you want to buy her something maybe a necklace. There's this great one "Mother Embrace" You can get her it with her child's birthstone in it. http://www.limogesjewelry.com/custom.asp...
If your bf who claims he wants to marry you...?
has no sympathy when you both found out that you have been bleeding heavily for 3 weeks because you have been miscarrying his child at 10 weeks - he doesnt so much as get you a flower but asks you to throw a heavy bag of garbage out to the dumpster while you are bleeding tissue and huge clots. When he finds out all this was a miscarriage, he doesnt even get you a card or flowers.. instead while you are in bed crying for the loss and finally deciding that you want to marry him - he sneaks behind your back to try to move states... and then badmouths you to his control freak 18 yr old daughter.. He has 3 kids. I have 1.. what would you ladies do?????
If your bf who claims he wants to marry you...?
Why do you even have to ask? He obviously doesn't care about your well-being, or probably even you. I'd pack my things, take my child and leave.
Reply:youve answered ur own question u know what to do
Reply:At first,I was thinking maybe he doesn't know how to handle all this with you.Not knowing his background,how he was brought up,etc.makes it hard for me to really judge that.But I feel badly for you that he isn't there to at least try to support you or let you know he feels bad-something! When you said he badmouthed you,what is it he badmouthed you about? I know that I would never trust my boyfriend if he had other children and ever,ever talked badly about me to them.We only have 2 together.Never should he talk badly about you to his children.He has 3 you say.Just wondering what is the age of you both.You don't deserve to be treated like that and I would never get married to anyone under these circumstances.Things usually only get worse if there is already this going on before you tie the knot.I do hope you make the right choice for you and your 1 child. Was he making plans to move out of state without you??
Reply:I would leave.
Reply:Run! Why would you want to be with someone that would EVER do that to you? You are obviously a better person than he would ever deserve. Get away from him and move on!
Reply:I'd be long gone!
Reply:Go find someone who will appreciate you.
He doesn't 'love' you the way you need to be loved.
That is heartless and mean!
Making you go through all of that alone.
I just went through some of my own things and my bf pretty much did the same thing. I have been sick for almost a year and barely ever got a 'hey, how you feeling?'.
I fought my battles alone and still do. I think it's mean.
We deserve a little attention and love too.
You need someone who will show you the attention and love.
I know that some men don't know how to show sympathy and love the way a woman does or needs. They are just too hard but come on sometimes they have to break that barrier and be what we need.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Good Luck ♥ God Bless
Reply:leave..what an ***..i'd been gone a long time ago!!
Reply:I would run as far sa possible from this man. Why should i put it with it. Nobody should but now that u know what kind of person he is ,it is u to decide.
Reply:Sounds like you need to move on. He shows no sign of committment and sympathy and doesn't have the sense to offer comfort.
Reply:I'd leave, and never look back.
Reply:Leave him,it sounds like he has some mental issues.
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If your bf who claims he wants to marry you...?
Why do you even have to ask? He obviously doesn't care about your well-being, or probably even you. I'd pack my things, take my child and leave.
Reply:youve answered ur own question u know what to do
Reply:At first,I was thinking maybe he doesn't know how to handle all this with you.Not knowing his background,how he was brought up,etc.makes it hard for me to really judge that.But I feel badly for you that he isn't there to at least try to support you or let you know he feels bad-something! When you said he badmouthed you,what is it he badmouthed you about? I know that I would never trust my boyfriend if he had other children and ever,ever talked badly about me to them.We only have 2 together.Never should he talk badly about you to his children.He has 3 you say.Just wondering what is the age of you both.You don't deserve to be treated like that and I would never get married to anyone under these circumstances.Things usually only get worse if there is already this going on before you tie the knot.I do hope you make the right choice for you and your 1 child. Was he making plans to move out of state without you??
Reply:I would leave.
Reply:Run! Why would you want to be with someone that would EVER do that to you? You are obviously a better person than he would ever deserve. Get away from him and move on!
Reply:I'd be long gone!
Reply:Go find someone who will appreciate you.
He doesn't 'love' you the way you need to be loved.
That is heartless and mean!
Making you go through all of that alone.
I just went through some of my own things and my bf pretty much did the same thing. I have been sick for almost a year and barely ever got a 'hey, how you feeling?'.
I fought my battles alone and still do. I think it's mean.
We deserve a little attention and love too.
You need someone who will show you the attention and love.
I know that some men don't know how to show sympathy and love the way a woman does or needs. They are just too hard but come on sometimes they have to break that barrier and be what we need.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Good Luck ♥ God Bless
Reply:leave..what an ***..i'd been gone a long time ago!!
Reply:I would run as far sa possible from this man. Why should i put it with it. Nobody should but now that u know what kind of person he is ,it is u to decide.
Reply:Sounds like you need to move on. He shows no sign of committment and sympathy and doesn't have the sense to offer comfort.
Reply:I'd leave, and never look back.
Reply:Leave him,it sounds like he has some mental issues.
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Bertrand Mpigabahizi
English 11 PAP A4
5 – 8 - 08
“To Kill a Mockingbird “Journal Project”
Themes ( Courage ) #1
Bravery , is a recurring theme in literature and it has been probably since the beginning of time , the Greeks talked about bravery , the Egyptians talked about bravery , and the Victorians talked about bravery . And To Kill A Mockingbird is not left out in this phase , even though bravery comes in different forms and sizes the amount of bravery still counts even when it has no or little impact….also the other great thing about bravery is that sometimes you don’t even know your being brave . One of the earliest and most accountable forms of bravery that plays part in this story is that of Atticus when he a respected white males from a long line of respected long males decided to be the attorney of a unrepresented black man from a long line of unrepresented black males and puts everything on the line for the name of Justice and equality , that was probably one of the biggest impact of bravery in the novel .Another form of bravery that we saw in the book that was caused by emotions that had nothing to truly do with bravery was when Scout ran in front of a murderous mob and fought them off with a smile and some nice words(Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) , her intensions may never be unveiled but we do know that Scout showed a act of stupidly and bravery that day but that may be because of the lack maturity because she was quite young at the time . But one of the most noticeable acts of bravery that appeared in the pages of To Kill A Mockingbird and was in no way accidental was when Jem protected and tried to fight of Mr. Ewell when he attacked him and his sister after a dance at school ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety), this may have been instinct from his new found maturity or it may have been instinct from a brother trying to make sure his sister was safe from such an attack . In the end like so many other works of literature bravery is well represented in this story , we get to see many different types of bravery from big and small from physical and internal but in the end they are all an act of bravery . The theme of bravery in the novel represents the fact that sometimes you need to step out your comfort zone in times of need and show a little bit of bravery .
Theme (Walking in someone’s shows) # 2
The theme of walking in someone else’s shoes has been heavily preached by Atticus and others in the novel To Kill A Mockingbird .Atticus unlike so many others at the time saw things at a different view that saw from what both sides had to say and in the end that’s what made him a great lawyer and was the cause that made him able to present Tom Robinson a great case , even though he lost he was able to put a doubt in the mind’s of the jury taking them two hours for them to decide on the decision on Tom’s life . One of the greatest incidents that happens in the book that have to deal with the saying and theme ( walking in someone else’s shoes ) happens when Scout in the end of the book when she finally caught on the idea of a not so perfect world walks with Boo her once upon a time night mare and decided to look out from the place Boo used to and still looks outside , and at that moment Scout experienced a out of body experienced and saw what Boo has been seeing from the start .Another incident that happens though out the story is by the main person that preached this philosophy and that was Atticus I’m sure Atticus was always a man that apposed the treatment of blacks in the United States of America but taking a cause like the Tom Robinson case was so risky even some of the more passionate activist would back down , I believe that Atticus was able to look deep into Tom and try to feel what he felt and use the capability to help the accused man and from there help him as mush as possible . And last but not least is more like stepping in the shoes of a group of people , and by that I’m talking about Calpurnia’s success and ability to see the point of view of both the whites and blacks and able to live , work , and survive with both of them , that I believe took a lot of time and effort on Calpurnia part ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.'). In the end it’s always nice to see how the shoe of another person feels from Prada stilettos to Nike sneakers to smelly or fresh .
Theme ( Family background / social classes ) # 3
Family background is important to everyone some more important then others . It can be a good thing to know about someone ‘s past and understand your lineage and family tradition that most of the time travels down from generation to generation . But in the send good things sometimes gets affected by evil or things that could go on used fro example when family background becomes what sets you apart from other and puts you in a class with other most times things can get dirty pretty fast . In the novel To Kill a mockingbird the social class is cut up in 4 levels or caste’s this mirroring what was going on in the US at that time . The first level is consumed of whites , well – educated richer whites with stable family homes and long family ties ( the Finch’s and Mr. Tate ) , the next level is consumed with mid – class farmers and small business owners which may be educated or not but have similar morals with the 1 class ( Cunninghams ), and the then the third class consumes of town drunks , fools , poor trash with no or little education and bad morals ( Ewells) , and the 4th class who are put down under not for there weekly amount or morals but because of there skin color ( tom Robinson ) . The importance of family background plays out in one incident when Aunt Alexander has a chat with Atticus about what he is doing to the family name how people will start looking at him if he keeps on being a n***** - lover ( she did not say that but , what other ‘s will say ). Another incident that happens often but is shown rarely is how Calpurnia and other adult blacks have to call little white boys and girls Mr. and Miss showing the racist looks on life and on the so called caste system . Another example about how connections and family background are important in Maycomb is how people who associate with people of lower classes seem to be pulled down in the social ranking for example Atticus seems to lose his hand in the town he is branded a n***** - lover by the towns people . in the end Family background is very important to understanding one’s past and later future , but like everything else in this world things are often changed to be used for something more sinister.
Theme ( Prejudice / racism ) # 4
Prejudice is a large group which we all belong to. It damages not only our eyes, but also our thoughts and actions. When we getted grouped into the group prejudice ( we all our at some point in time ), not everyone can set them selves free from such hate and racism. Sometimes we see people and think they are our enemies when really they are just a little bit different then us, just because they are a different race or even a different sex. These prejudice views are not uncommon, even though most of the time they are wrong just imagined by fear and hate . To Kill a Mockingbird presents many different types of prejudice, the situations also show that prejudice can be overthrown and banished. An example of viewing things differently is when Aunt Alexandra forbid Scout to play with Walter Cunningham, a poor boy which Scout attends school with. This is because Aunt Alexandra sees Walter and his family as poor and beneath the Finches who our considered by most to be one of the top families in the area, in her words," ...they're good folks. But they're not our kind of folks." Scout on the other hand with her personality and the teaching she hears from her father ,doesn't care about how much money Walter has but about his potential to be a friend. She doesn't let stupid and illogical things like money damage her judgment of people. The most typical of all prejudice views is that of race , but to me and many others their only one race the human race black , white , yellow we are all human. An example of this is during Tom Robinsons trial. Tom was a black man accused of raping a white woman, a crime that is punishable by the death penalty , in the form of the diabolical form of the electric chair. Even though all the facts proved that he didn't do it, the jury still found him guilty "beyond a reasonable doubt". Tom's life has been sacrificed to racism by the people who were there to protect him. The justice system didn't allow this man to have a fair trial because of the color of his skin. They disregarded his citizenship or that of the other minorities, all they could focus on was his race because that was all racism let them see. But Prejudice can be overcome if you let it , and it is proven over and over again. There are many people out there that are willing to lose everything they have to fight for what's right. Take Atticus Finch for example, he knew that Tom wouldn't win but he defended him anyway. He didn't care what people thought, he just knew that the truth had to be heard even if it was not considered. The children also show that there is hope in the future for people to be nonjudgmental. They didn't understand how a jury could convict a man whom they knew was innocent and it shocked them. Atticus explained to them that it has happened before and will happen again, sadly he also told them,"... when they do it - it seems that only the children weep. .." Prejudice showed it's face many times in To Kill a Mocking Bird, and in some of those instances it showed itself being overcome. From economical prejudice against the Cunninghams to racial prejudice against Tom Robinson, the book has displayed every aspect of how people can look to the wrong side of the highway and see things completely differently then the person standing next to them. It's situations like the ones given in this book that make me angry that society gives people ideas like these to write about. If we can wipe prejudice clean, people who know what's right wouldn't have to hold the guilt for all those people who do wrong. In the end , I know prejudice and racism will be no more with people starting to understand there reall is not a difference maybe people will start to embrace themselves more
Theme ( Coming of age / loss of innocence )
To Kill A Mockingbird was not made to be a fairytale or to be a book a child was supposed to read and come out thinking the same they did before they read the book . This book was made to try to show what was really like in the real world and how it was really like to be faced with things you had no control over , you never plan when you’re going to see the thing that makes you grow up and helps you come of age or when you experience a moment where you finally lose your innocence . This book is based around young children finding them selves in a difficult world and time a time of differences and battles that will change their lives forever . One of the main characters that I believe had what you call a change of attitude or look of life . He began to understand what was really going on in the world he began to see what justice was like his father has been doing for all his adult life he began to grow up. One of the incidents that evolved Jem was when Dill still a small boy ran all the way from to stay with his aunt but to scared to confront her he hinds under Scouts bed , Scout extremely happy to have one of her best friends under bed plans to keep Dill under there but Jem seeing this decides to the right thing and tell his father who will know more on what to do with Dill . Another incident is with Scout in the end of the book where relies where she went wrong in figuring Boo out and how mush she has changed in the past year , at this point Scout is moving away what she used to be and know trying to be what her brother has already down now. The fact is the loose of innocence is not terribly a bad thing but a time for moving on and growing to a better and securing person .
Character # 1( Atticus )
Atticus is one of those characters that are characterized with such great qualities that it makes himself a more admirable and loveable character . Atticus is what you call a real southern gentlemen on of the few men in Maycomb that can truly claim lineage in the small Alabama town . but he never holds himself at high regard or puts himself on petal stool , not once in the novel did atticus claim to be superior to anyone in the book even if he did hold higher morals and character then some of Harpers many interesting and developed characters .One of the main characteristics that I believe makes Atticus a more better of a man to read about is his intelligence , he unlike so many other people from his crop does not depend on his family inheritance or pride to help him get his way. Being a Law school graduate Atticus knows a lot of interesting and important things that the town people of Maycomb will never know about , for example since the being Atticus was shown to be a man that held education at the highest regard and made sure to install it in his children in a early age , he also seemed to know what racism really was and how easy it corrupt even the finest of gentlemen and ladies . another great thing about example about Atticus is wisdom and the ability to see through other people’s shoes and try to understand their point of view and pain and he preaches this philosophy every chance he gets especially to his young children that will use his teaching to better understand them selves and others around him (“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view — until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” --Atticus (pg. 30) .Another great thing about Atticus is his great love for justice and all the great qualities that comes along with the terrioty for example Atticus is willing to give way everything he’s got , everything he has rightfully won just for doing the right thing and defending a innocent black man at a time when Alabama was fighting the wounds of racism and the Great Depression . ( "As you grow older you’ll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don’t you forget it— whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, of how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash.”--Atticus (pg. 200)) and (“It’s not okay to hate anybody.”—Atticus (pg. 246)) are great quotes made by Atticus that truly showed his true colors and what he truly stood for . In the end Atticus Finch has proven him self to be an intelligent , brave which he showed by going against what was thought to be the right thing and jumping on a idea of freedom and equality , wisdom , and last but not least sympathy for what is evil and embracing what is good . Atticus Finch is the true definition of a southern gentlemen with a good head on his shoulders.
Character # 2 ( Jem )
Jem Finch born into a pretty stable family with a great educated father who comes from a long line of respected southern men seemed to have every thing going for him and in fact things never really got to bad for him but he did experience great disappointments, grief, and had a lot of rapid changes happen to him in his life. To me and many other Jem Finch seems to be the most changed and the one with the most evolution between the beginnings of the book to the end of it. He has experienced some akward situations and has found himself in some pretty dangerous places but he still seemed to hold his important and primary characteristics and morals taught by his father. One of the earlier characteristics of Jem the showed early on was the willingness to learn and listen which he and scout both carry and where most likely taught by that by Atticus . even thought that characteristic has proven to be useful it has landed him in some trouble for example how easy for him to believe the stories about Boo and how realistic he told them to Scout and Dill (Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.). Another characteristic that proves to be one of the deepest once to date is his bravery and how fast he is to show his strengths , this characteristic ends up to be very important when he shows it when one of the most important people in his life comes close to death ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety). Also another great characteristics that he probably learned from his father is his thoughts on the importance of justice and the actions he does to try to get a little bit closer for finch line ( Jem If there's just one kind of folks, why can't they get along with each other? If they're all alike, why do they go out of their way to despise each other? )Since the start of the novel we always know that Jem know a little bit more in about what was happening in this world then Scout and even then some of Maycombs adults. By the end of the book it seemed like we had finally saw what Jem really represented and we had finally had saw a full swing of evolution of Jem’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. Jem started out in the book as a small innocent youngster that most important interest was boogie monsters and scary stories to a young man that understood the bases of good ( loving and understanding each other )and the effects of evil ( racism and prejudice ) . Jem finch truly is the most evolved character and I don’t believe his story ends when the book closes.
Character # 3 ( Scout )
Scout Finch is a very unusual girl especially a girl in the Great depression in the 1930’s when girls where expected to were hand made dresses and learn etiquette and strive to be a the perfect southern bell, Scout is out climbing tree’s with her brother and play mate, rolling around in tires and harassing cranky old women down the street. But scout is also unusual in something else also and that is that she is unusually smart actually very smart ,she has already been able to read and write with the help with her father and has already thinking about the worlds many and diverse problems ( Scout There's just one kind of folks. Folks. ) . But even though she is a very intelligent girl she is also very hard headed and feisty which adds to her tom – boy appeal that makes her so loveable and a kind of feminist icon , scout carries great confidence and does not back down to any battle not even when the opponent seems and is the one with the upper hand , even though Scout knows that what she does sometimes is not necessary she still has no problem in breaking the rules because that’s her personality and she is not ready into being someone that truly doesn’t embody her presence (Atticus had promised me he would wear me out if he ever heard of me fightin' any more. I was far too old and too big for such childish things, and the sooner I learned to hold in, the better off everybody would be. ). Another great thing about Scout is that she truly does what is right what she believes is right, scout never truly had any bad intention behind any of her motives even if they sometimes turned into something unnecessary or very quite foolish for example when she went in front of a lynching mob that were at the point of there momentum and challenged them with only a smile and some few words (Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) In the end Scout is able to prove her self to be one of the rare creatures of yester year the woman ( girl ) with a personality , a say , a real head on her shoulders , and the willingness to be independent and strong for your self and many other in your presence , she may have made some foolish and childless mistakes but she has also been able to learn and better understand life and come out a better and more mature lady (Neighbors bring food with death, and flowers with sickness, and little things in between. Boo was our neighbor. He gave us two soap dolls, a broken watch and chain, a knife, and our lives. )
Character # 4 ( Calpurnia )
We don’t really get to experience Calpurnia’s character and appeal as mush as we like but we to get to see many beautiful and motherly characteristics from what we do know about her. We know Calpurnia is an American woman of African descent , we also know that she is probably a lady who is the daughter of a man who’s father was a slave and not one of recent immigration . but on of the most important things we know about Calpurnia is the she is since the death of the Finch’s childrens mothers death the primary care taker or motherly figure of both Scout and Jem and by how the children treat they also see Calpurnia as a great mother role and a very important figure in their lives .And by the way she treats the young children we now know that she is more of the disciplinarian to the children of the Finch house ( Calpurnia -Don't matter who they are, anybody sets foot in this house, they are company and don't let me catch you remarking on their ways like you were so high and mighty.)………(.That boy is your company. And if he wants to eat up that tablecloth, you let him, you hear) And ……….( “ if you can't act fit to eat like folks, you can just set here and eat in the kitchen.”) We also find some other interesting characteristics like for example that she is a very intelligent even though she and many other African – Americans at the time are robbed to their right at education. But it’s not knowledge of mathematics and history but knowledge at how she is able to translate her behavior from one race to another without being false to her. She is both successful to appear very knowledgeable to her “white family “and the people of their world, but also is still same old Calpurnia when she is at home with other black people in her every day environment ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.') . Calpurnia like so many other woman and men of minority classes at the time ,found a healthy line of interacting with both higher class whites and blacks , Latino’s , Asians , and native Americans from their own neighborhood without feeling like they abandoning their culture and their lineage . Calpurnia is the primary mother figure in the story and without her strong will scout and Jem would not have turned out like they did, Miss. Maudi and other motherly figures are great but not of them can compare to the strong willing, tough, loving, and very uniquely smart Calpurnia .
Character # 5 ( Miss. Maudie )
Miss. Maudie is considered to most kids in the neighborhood as the most trust worthy and friendly adult for her more clear understanding of younger children and her unusual act of not tattle telling on the mischievous act some of the children commit. Maybe one of Miss. Maudie most loveable fans is Scout, other then her father Miss. Maudie is one of the most respected adults in Scout’s life. Unlike some adults Miss. Maudie does not seem to mind Scouts rash attitude, tom – boy looks, and fiery temper. In fact she seems to enjoy like if it is a look back in to her child hood in some way. So from the start of the novel we found out some amazing characteristics about Miss. Maudie for example that she is a very optimistic person that she chooses to see things from a brighter light like when her house was unfortunately burned to the ground Miss. Maudie was able to look at a different angle and see the better out come from this dire situation ( Mrs. . maudie – “ I was planning to get a smaller place anyway …just a better way to get rid of it “) this characteristic makes Miss. Maudie a more loveable and admirable character in a book that is filled with many unpleasant men and woman . Another great characteristic the brightens Miss. Maudie is the love for justice and equality that she shares with Atticus maybe the reason they are quite great friends, her dislike for racism is shown by how she talks about the matter (2) "What I meant was, if Atticus Finch drank until he was drunk he wouldn't be as hard as some men are at their best. There are just some kind of men who-who're so busy worrying about the next world they've never learned to live in this one, and you can look down the street and see the results." -Miss Maudie (52) ) .And last but not least another thing that characterizes Miss. Maudie is the love a simple like and her sympathy for other who have nothing , she shows it when she is one of the only people that do not attend the Tom Robinson case for the sake that she’s it as a blood bath or helping pulling the trigger to an innocent man ( Miss. . Maudie - “ There’s’ no reason for me to go there ..what’s the fun to watch a man walk to his death “ ) In the end Miss. Maudie proved her self to be a loyal and helpful character to our main characters in the time of need , she was there when you needed a talk and she was also their when you needed someone to protect you , Miss. Maudie has rightfully won a place with Calpurnia as a great mother figure , feminist personal, and in the end a good old southern lady .
Character # 6 ( Dill )
Charles Baker Harris known by Dill by the closest of his friends is scouts and Jem’s summer play pal and close friend . Dill is around the same age as Scout and you can tell by his childish behavior him and Scout share while Jem is starting to grow up and becoming a man and starting to see the world as it is . In most of the story Jem is seen has a overly , funny , diminutive , and imaginative boy , his character does not experience the amount of change that Scout and Jem experience but maybe he does but because his role in the novel is not large he still under goes some changes , and his sensitive behavior comes to bloom when he sees the injustice of the “Tom Robinson Case “. In the start of the novel Dill is introduced as Mrs. Rachel’s nephew who comes to visit over summer because of family issue’s ( later introduced in the book ) we also find out one of Dill’s characteristics and that’ gullibility , Dill seems to be easily swayed by the existences of the legend of Boo Riley ( Dill Harris: Let's go down to the courthouse and see the room that they locked Boo up in. My aunt says it's bat-infested, and he nearly died from the mildew. Come on. I bet they got chains and instruments of torture down there.) We also fing out that Dill is very dependent over other’s and quickly attachs him self with the Finch siblings especially Jem , when they first met you king of felt Dill wanted to out do the siblings , but that quickly changed when there adventures with Boo started (Jem: There goes the meanest man that ever took a breath of life. Dill Harris: Why is he the meanest man? Jem: Well, for one thing, he has a boy named Boo that he keeps chained to a bed in the house over yonder. Boo only comes out at night when you're asleep and it's pitch-dark. When you wake up at night, you can hear him. Once I heard him scratchin' on our screen door, but he was gone by the time Atticus got there.
Dill Harris: I wonder what he does in there? I wonder what he looks like?
Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.)So we know that Dill was very gullible , and also dependent but we later find out that Dill also very sensitive no matter how mush he tries to make him self look like in front of Jem and sometimes Scout , for example during a time when Dill was not staying at his aunts house he randomly appeared at the Finch’s house under Scout’s bed to be in fact , for the reason that his parent were not treating him the way he liked ( Dill : “ they don’t care about me any more ….they don’t love me “ ) another innocent was during the Tom Robinson trials when Dill saw the harsh treatment that the prosecutors were forcing down on Tom , he burst in to tears with Scout trying to quite him down . So in conclusion we find out that Dill is only just a boy that finds him self at a time of desperate situations , he may not have been in the front line of the battle but he sure was there to experience the amount of hatred and prejudice in the town at that time .
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English 11 PAP A4
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“To Kill a Mockingbird “Journal Project”
Themes ( Courage ) #1
Bravery , is a recurring theme in literature and it has been probably since the beginning of time , the Greeks talked about bravery , the Egyptians talked about bravery , and the Victorians talked about bravery . And To Kill A Mockingbird is not left out in this phase , even though bravery comes in different forms and sizes the amount of bravery still counts even when it has no or little impact….also the other great thing about bravery is that sometimes you don’t even know your being brave . One of the earliest and most accountable forms of bravery that plays part in this story is that of Atticus when he a respected white males from a long line of respected long males decided to be the attorney of a unrepresented black man from a long line of unrepresented black males and puts everything on the line for the name of Justice and equality , that was probably one of the biggest impact of bravery in the novel .Another form of bravery that we saw in the book that was caused by emotions that had nothing to truly do with bravery was when Scout ran in front of a murderous mob and fought them off with a smile and some nice words(Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) , her intensions may never be unveiled but we do know that Scout showed a act of stupidly and bravery that day but that may be because of the lack maturity because she was quite young at the time . But one of the most noticeable acts of bravery that appeared in the pages of To Kill A Mockingbird and was in no way accidental was when Jem protected and tried to fight of Mr. Ewell when he attacked him and his sister after a dance at school ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety), this may have been instinct from his new found maturity or it may have been instinct from a brother trying to make sure his sister was safe from such an attack . In the end like so many other works of literature bravery is well represented in this story , we get to see many different types of bravery from big and small from physical and internal but in the end they are all an act of bravery . The theme of bravery in the novel represents the fact that sometimes you need to step out your comfort zone in times of need and show a little bit of bravery .
Theme (Walking in someone’s shows) # 2
The theme of walking in someone else’s shoes has been heavily preached by Atticus and others in the novel To Kill A Mockingbird .Atticus unlike so many others at the time saw things at a different view that saw from what both sides had to say and in the end that’s what made him a great lawyer and was the cause that made him able to present Tom Robinson a great case , even though he lost he was able to put a doubt in the mind’s of the jury taking them two hours for them to decide on the decision on Tom’s life . One of the greatest incidents that happens in the book that have to deal with the saying and theme ( walking in someone else’s shoes ) happens when Scout in the end of the book when she finally caught on the idea of a not so perfect world walks with Boo her once upon a time night mare and decided to look out from the place Boo used to and still looks outside , and at that moment Scout experienced a out of body experienced and saw what Boo has been seeing from the start .Another incident that happens though out the story is by the main person that preached this philosophy and that was Atticus I’m sure Atticus was always a man that apposed the treatment of blacks in the United States of America but taking a cause like the Tom Robinson case was so risky even some of the more passionate activist would back down , I believe that Atticus was able to look deep into Tom and try to feel what he felt and use the capability to help the accused man and from there help him as mush as possible . And last but not least is more like stepping in the shoes of a group of people , and by that I’m talking about Calpurnia’s success and ability to see the point of view of both the whites and blacks and able to live , work , and survive with both of them , that I believe took a lot of time and effort on Calpurnia part ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.'). In the end it’s always nice to see how the shoe of another person feels from Prada stilettos to Nike sneakers to smelly or fresh .
Theme ( Family background / social classes ) # 3
Family background is important to everyone some more important then others . It can be a good thing to know about someone ‘s past and understand your lineage and family tradition that most of the time travels down from generation to generation . But in the send good things sometimes gets affected by evil or things that could go on used fro example when family background becomes what sets you apart from other and puts you in a class with other most times things can get dirty pretty fast . In the novel To Kill a mockingbird the social class is cut up in 4 levels or caste’s this mirroring what was going on in the US at that time . The first level is consumed of whites , well – educated richer whites with stable family homes and long family ties ( the Finch’s and Mr. Tate ) , the next level is consumed with mid – class farmers and small business owners which may be educated or not but have similar morals with the 1 class ( Cunninghams ), and the then the third class consumes of town drunks , fools , poor trash with no or little education and bad morals ( Ewells) , and the 4th class who are put down under not for there weekly amount or morals but because of there skin color ( tom Robinson ) . The importance of family background plays out in one incident when Aunt Alexander has a chat with Atticus about what he is doing to the family name how people will start looking at him if he keeps on being a n***** - lover ( she did not say that but , what other ‘s will say ). Another incident that happens often but is shown rarely is how Calpurnia and other adult blacks have to call little white boys and girls Mr. and Miss showing the racist looks on life and on the so called caste system . Another example about how connections and family background are important in Maycomb is how people who associate with people of lower classes seem to be pulled down in the social ranking for example Atticus seems to lose his hand in the town he is branded a n***** - lover by the towns people . in the end Family background is very important to understanding one’s past and later future , but like everything else in this world things are often changed to be used for something more sinister.
Theme ( Prejudice / racism ) # 4
Prejudice is a large group which we all belong to. It damages not only our eyes, but also our thoughts and actions. When we getted grouped into the group prejudice ( we all our at some point in time ), not everyone can set them selves free from such hate and racism. Sometimes we see people and think they are our enemies when really they are just a little bit different then us, just because they are a different race or even a different sex. These prejudice views are not uncommon, even though most of the time they are wrong just imagined by fear and hate . To Kill a Mockingbird presents many different types of prejudice, the situations also show that prejudice can be overthrown and banished. An example of viewing things differently is when Aunt Alexandra forbid Scout to play with Walter Cunningham, a poor boy which Scout attends school with. This is because Aunt Alexandra sees Walter and his family as poor and beneath the Finches who our considered by most to be one of the top families in the area, in her words," ...they're good folks. But they're not our kind of folks." Scout on the other hand with her personality and the teaching she hears from her father ,doesn't care about how much money Walter has but about his potential to be a friend. She doesn't let stupid and illogical things like money damage her judgment of people. The most typical of all prejudice views is that of race , but to me and many others their only one race the human race black , white , yellow we are all human. An example of this is during Tom Robinsons trial. Tom was a black man accused of raping a white woman, a crime that is punishable by the death penalty , in the form of the diabolical form of the electric chair. Even though all the facts proved that he didn't do it, the jury still found him guilty "beyond a reasonable doubt". Tom's life has been sacrificed to racism by the people who were there to protect him. The justice system didn't allow this man to have a fair trial because of the color of his skin. They disregarded his citizenship or that of the other minorities, all they could focus on was his race because that was all racism let them see. But Prejudice can be overcome if you let it , and it is proven over and over again. There are many people out there that are willing to lose everything they have to fight for what's right. Take Atticus Finch for example, he knew that Tom wouldn't win but he defended him anyway. He didn't care what people thought, he just knew that the truth had to be heard even if it was not considered. The children also show that there is hope in the future for people to be nonjudgmental. They didn't understand how a jury could convict a man whom they knew was innocent and it shocked them. Atticus explained to them that it has happened before and will happen again, sadly he also told them,"... when they do it - it seems that only the children weep. .." Prejudice showed it's face many times in To Kill a Mocking Bird, and in some of those instances it showed itself being overcome. From economical prejudice against the Cunninghams to racial prejudice against Tom Robinson, the book has displayed every aspect of how people can look to the wrong side of the highway and see things completely differently then the person standing next to them. It's situations like the ones given in this book that make me angry that society gives people ideas like these to write about. If we can wipe prejudice clean, people who know what's right wouldn't have to hold the guilt for all those people who do wrong. In the end , I know prejudice and racism will be no more with people starting to understand there reall is not a difference maybe people will start to embrace themselves more
Theme ( Coming of age / loss of innocence )
To Kill A Mockingbird was not made to be a fairytale or to be a book a child was supposed to read and come out thinking the same they did before they read the book . This book was made to try to show what was really like in the real world and how it was really like to be faced with things you had no control over , you never plan when you’re going to see the thing that makes you grow up and helps you come of age or when you experience a moment where you finally lose your innocence . This book is based around young children finding them selves in a difficult world and time a time of differences and battles that will change their lives forever . One of the main characters that I believe had what you call a change of attitude or look of life . He began to understand what was really going on in the world he began to see what justice was like his father has been doing for all his adult life he began to grow up. One of the incidents that evolved Jem was when Dill still a small boy ran all the way from to stay with his aunt but to scared to confront her he hinds under Scouts bed , Scout extremely happy to have one of her best friends under bed plans to keep Dill under there but Jem seeing this decides to the right thing and tell his father who will know more on what to do with Dill . Another incident is with Scout in the end of the book where relies where she went wrong in figuring Boo out and how mush she has changed in the past year , at this point Scout is moving away what she used to be and know trying to be what her brother has already down now. The fact is the loose of innocence is not terribly a bad thing but a time for moving on and growing to a better and securing person .
Character # 1( Atticus )
Atticus is one of those characters that are characterized with such great qualities that it makes himself a more admirable and loveable character . Atticus is what you call a real southern gentlemen on of the few men in Maycomb that can truly claim lineage in the small Alabama town . but he never holds himself at high regard or puts himself on petal stool , not once in the novel did atticus claim to be superior to anyone in the book even if he did hold higher morals and character then some of Harpers many interesting and developed characters .One of the main characteristics that I believe makes Atticus a more better of a man to read about is his intelligence , he unlike so many other people from his crop does not depend on his family inheritance or pride to help him get his way. Being a Law school graduate Atticus knows a lot of interesting and important things that the town people of Maycomb will never know about , for example since the being Atticus was shown to be a man that held education at the highest regard and made sure to install it in his children in a early age , he also seemed to know what racism really was and how easy it corrupt even the finest of gentlemen and ladies . another great thing about example about Atticus is wisdom and the ability to see through other people’s shoes and try to understand their point of view and pain and he preaches this philosophy every chance he gets especially to his young children that will use his teaching to better understand them selves and others around him (“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view — until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” --Atticus (pg. 30) .Another great thing about Atticus is his great love for justice and all the great qualities that comes along with the terrioty for example Atticus is willing to give way everything he’s got , everything he has rightfully won just for doing the right thing and defending a innocent black man at a time when Alabama was fighting the wounds of racism and the Great Depression . ( "As you grow older you’ll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don’t you forget it— whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, of how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash.”--Atticus (pg. 200)) and (“It’s not okay to hate anybody.”—Atticus (pg. 246)) are great quotes made by Atticus that truly showed his true colors and what he truly stood for . In the end Atticus Finch has proven him self to be an intelligent , brave which he showed by going against what was thought to be the right thing and jumping on a idea of freedom and equality , wisdom , and last but not least sympathy for what is evil and embracing what is good . Atticus Finch is the true definition of a southern gentlemen with a good head on his shoulders.
Character # 2 ( Jem )
Jem Finch born into a pretty stable family with a great educated father who comes from a long line of respected southern men seemed to have every thing going for him and in fact things never really got to bad for him but he did experience great disappointments, grief, and had a lot of rapid changes happen to him in his life. To me and many other Jem Finch seems to be the most changed and the one with the most evolution between the beginnings of the book to the end of it. He has experienced some akward situations and has found himself in some pretty dangerous places but he still seemed to hold his important and primary characteristics and morals taught by his father. One of the earlier characteristics of Jem the showed early on was the willingness to learn and listen which he and scout both carry and where most likely taught by that by Atticus . even thought that characteristic has proven to be useful it has landed him in some trouble for example how easy for him to believe the stories about Boo and how realistic he told them to Scout and Dill (Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.). Another characteristic that proves to be one of the deepest once to date is his bravery and how fast he is to show his strengths , this characteristic ends up to be very important when he shows it when one of the most important people in his life comes close to death ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety). Also another great characteristics that he probably learned from his father is his thoughts on the importance of justice and the actions he does to try to get a little bit closer for finch line ( Jem If there's just one kind of folks, why can't they get along with each other? If they're all alike, why do they go out of their way to despise each other? )Since the start of the novel we always know that Jem know a little bit more in about what was happening in this world then Scout and even then some of Maycombs adults. By the end of the book it seemed like we had finally saw what Jem really represented and we had finally had saw a full swing of evolution of Jem’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. Jem started out in the book as a small innocent youngster that most important interest was boogie monsters and scary stories to a young man that understood the bases of good ( loving and understanding each other )and the effects of evil ( racism and prejudice ) . Jem finch truly is the most evolved character and I don’t believe his story ends when the book closes.
Character # 3 ( Scout )
Scout Finch is a very unusual girl especially a girl in the Great depression in the 1930’s when girls where expected to were hand made dresses and learn etiquette and strive to be a the perfect southern bell, Scout is out climbing tree’s with her brother and play mate, rolling around in tires and harassing cranky old women down the street. But scout is also unusual in something else also and that is that she is unusually smart actually very smart ,she has already been able to read and write with the help with her father and has already thinking about the worlds many and diverse problems ( Scout There's just one kind of folks. Folks. ) . But even though she is a very intelligent girl she is also very hard headed and feisty which adds to her tom – boy appeal that makes her so loveable and a kind of feminist icon , scout carries great confidence and does not back down to any battle not even when the opponent seems and is the one with the upper hand , even though Scout knows that what she does sometimes is not necessary she still has no problem in breaking the rules because that’s her personality and she is not ready into being someone that truly doesn’t embody her presence (Atticus had promised me he would wear me out if he ever heard of me fightin' any more. I was far too old and too big for such childish things, and the sooner I learned to hold in, the better off everybody would be. ). Another great thing about Scout is that she truly does what is right what she believes is right, scout never truly had any bad intention behind any of her motives even if they sometimes turned into something unnecessary or very quite foolish for example when she went in front of a lynching mob that were at the point of there momentum and challenged them with only a smile and some few words (Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) In the end Scout is able to prove her self to be one of the rare creatures of yester year the woman ( girl ) with a personality , a say , a real head on her shoulders , and the willingness to be independent and strong for your self and many other in your presence , she may have made some foolish and childless mistakes but she has also been able to learn and better understand life and come out a better and more mature lady (Neighbors bring food with death, and flowers with sickness, and little things in between. Boo was our neighbor. He gave us two soap dolls, a broken watch and chain, a knife, and our lives. )
Character # 4 ( Calpurnia )
We don’t really get to experience Calpurnia’s character and appeal as mush as we like but we to get to see many beautiful and motherly characteristics from what we do know about her. We know Calpurnia is an American woman of African descent , we also know that she is probably a lady who is the daughter of a man who’s father was a slave and not one of recent immigration . but on of the most important things we know about Calpurnia is the she is since the death of the Finch’s childrens mothers death the primary care taker or motherly figure of both Scout and Jem and by how the children treat they also see Calpurnia as a great mother role and a very important figure in their lives .And by the way she treats the young children we now know that she is more of the disciplinarian to the children of the Finch house ( Calpurnia -Don't matter who they are, anybody sets foot in this house, they are company and don't let me catch you remarking on their ways like you were so high and mighty.)………(.That boy is your company. And if he wants to eat up that tablecloth, you let him, you hear) And ……….( “ if you can't act fit to eat like folks, you can just set here and eat in the kitchen.”) We also find some other interesting characteristics like for example that she is a very intelligent even though she and many other African – Americans at the time are robbed to their right at education. But it’s not knowledge of mathematics and history but knowledge at how she is able to translate her behavior from one race to another without being false to her. She is both successful to appear very knowledgeable to her “white family “and the people of their world, but also is still same old Calpurnia when she is at home with other black people in her every day environment ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.') . Calpurnia like so many other woman and men of minority classes at the time ,found a healthy line of interacting with both higher class whites and blacks , Latino’s , Asians , and native Americans from their own neighborhood without feeling like they abandoning their culture and their lineage . Calpurnia is the primary mother figure in the story and without her strong will scout and Jem would not have turned out like they did, Miss. Maudi and other motherly figures are great but not of them can compare to the strong willing, tough, loving, and very uniquely smart Calpurnia .
Character # 5 ( Miss. Maudie )
Miss. Maudie is considered to most kids in the neighborhood as the most trust worthy and friendly adult for her more clear understanding of younger children and her unusual act of not tattle telling on the mischievous act some of the children commit. Maybe one of Miss. Maudie most loveable fans is Scout, other then her father Miss. Maudie is one of the most respected adults in Scout’s life. Unlike some adults Miss. Maudie does not seem to mind Scouts rash attitude, tom – boy looks, and fiery temper. In fact she seems to enjoy like if it is a look back in to her child hood in some way. So from the start of the novel we found out some amazing characteristics about Miss. Maudie for example that she is a very optimistic person that she chooses to see things from a brighter light like when her house was unfortunately burned to the ground Miss. Maudie was able to look at a different angle and see the better out come from this dire situation ( Mrs. . maudie – “ I was planning to get a smaller place anyway …just a better way to get rid of it “) this characteristic makes Miss. Maudie a more loveable and admirable character in a book that is filled with many unpleasant men and woman . Another great characteristic the brightens Miss. Maudie is the love for justice and equality that she shares with Atticus maybe the reason they are quite great friends, her dislike for racism is shown by how she talks about the matter (2) "What I meant was, if Atticus Finch drank until he was drunk he wouldn't be as hard as some men are at their best. There are just some kind of men who-who're so busy worrying about the next world they've never learned to live in this one, and you can look down the street and see the results." -Miss Maudie (52) ) .And last but not least another thing that characterizes Miss. Maudie is the love a simple like and her sympathy for other who have nothing , she shows it when she is one of the only people that do not attend the Tom Robinson case for the sake that she’s it as a blood bath or helping pulling the trigger to an innocent man ( Miss. . Maudie - “ There’s’ no reason for me to go there ..what’s the fun to watch a man walk to his death “ ) In the end Miss. Maudie proved her self to be a loyal and helpful character to our main characters in the time of need , she was there when you needed a talk and she was also their when you needed someone to protect you , Miss. Maudie has rightfully won a place with Calpurnia as a great mother figure , feminist personal, and in the end a good old southern lady .
Character # 6 ( Dill )
Charles Baker Harris known by Dill by the closest of his friends is scouts and Jem’s summer play pal and close friend . Dill is around the same age as Scout and you can tell by his childish behavior him and Scout share while Jem is starting to grow up and becoming a man and starting to see the world as it is . In most of the story Jem is seen has a overly , funny , diminutive , and imaginative boy , his character does not experience the amount of change that Scout and Jem experience but maybe he does but because his role in the novel is not large he still under goes some changes , and his sensitive behavior comes to bloom when he sees the injustice of the “Tom Robinson Case “. In the start of the novel Dill is introduced as Mrs. Rachel’s nephew who comes to visit over summer because of family issue’s ( later introduced in the book ) we also find out one of Dill’s characteristics and that’ gullibility , Dill seems to be easily swayed by the existences of the legend of Boo Riley ( Dill Harris: Let's go down to the courthouse and see the room that they locked Boo up in. My aunt says it's bat-infested, and he nearly died from the mildew. Come on. I bet they got chains and instruments of torture down there.) We also fing out that Dill is very dependent over other’s and quickly attachs him self with the Finch siblings especially Jem , when they first met you king of felt Dill wanted to out do the siblings , but that quickly changed when there adventures with Boo started (Jem: There goes the meanest man that ever took a breath of life. Dill Harris: Why is he the meanest man? Jem: Well, for one thing, he has a boy named Boo that he keeps chained to a bed in the house over yonder. Boo only comes out at night when you're asleep and it's pitch-dark. When you wake up at night, you can hear him. Once I heard him scratchin' on our screen door, but he was gone by the time Atticus got there.
Dill Harris: I wonder what he does in there? I wonder what he looks like?
Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.)So we know that Dill was very gullible , and also dependent but we later find out that Dill also very sensitive no matter how mush he tries to make him self look like in front of Jem and sometimes Scout , for example during a time when Dill was not staying at his aunts house he randomly appeared at the Finch’s house under Scout’s bed to be in fact , for the reason that his parent were not treating him the way he liked ( Dill : “ they don’t care about me any more ….they don’t love me “ ) another innocent was during the Tom Robinson trials when Dill saw the harsh treatment that the prosecutors were forcing down on Tom , he burst in to tears with Scout trying to quite him down . So in conclusion we find out that Dill is only just a boy that finds him self at a time of desperate situations , he may not have been in the front line of the battle but he sure was there to experience the amount of hatred and prejudice in the town at that time .
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Themes ( Courage ) #1
Bravery , is a recurring theme in literature and it has been probably since the beginning of time , the Greeks talked about bravery , the Egyptians talked about bravery , and the Victorians talked about bravery . And To Kill A Mockingbird is not left out in this phase , even though bravery comes in different forms and sizes the amount of bravery still counts even when it has no or little impact….also the other great thing about bravery is that sometimes you don’t even know your being brave . One of the earliest and most accountable forms of bravery that plays part in this story is that of Atticus when he a respected white males from a long line of respected long males decided to be the attorney of a unrepresented black man from a long line of unrepresented black males and puts everything on the line for the name of Justice and equality , that was probably one of the biggest impact of bravery in the novel .Another form of bravery that we saw in the book that was caused by emotions that had nothing to truly do with bravery was when Scout ran in front of a murderous mob and fought them off with a smile and some nice words(Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) , her intensions may never be unveiled but we do know that Scout showed a act of stupidly and bravery that day but that may be because of the lack maturity because she was quite young at the time . But one of the most noticeable acts of bravery that appeared in the pages of To Kill A Mockingbird and was in no way accidental was when Jem protected and tried to fight of Mr. Ewell when he attacked him and his sister after a dance at school ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety), this may have been instinct from his new found maturity or it may have been instinct from a brother trying to make sure his sister was safe from such an attack . In the end like so many other works of literature bravery is well represented in this story , we get to see many different types of bravery from big and small from physical and internal but in the end they are all an act of bravery . The theme of bravery in the novel represents the fact that sometimes you need to step out your comfort zone in times of need and show a little bit of bravery .
Theme (Walking in someone’s shows) # 2
The theme of walking in someone else’s shoes has been heavily preached by Atticus and others in the novel To Kill A Mockingbird .Atticus unlike so many others at the time saw things at a different view that saw from what both sides had to say and in the end that’s what made him a great lawyer and was the cause that made him able to present Tom Robinson a great case , even though he lost he was able to put a doubt in the mind’s of the jury taking them two hours for them to decide on the decision on Tom’s life . One of the greatest incidents that happens in the book that have to deal with the saying and theme ( walking in someone else’s shoes ) happens when Scout in the end of the book when she finally caught on the idea of a not so perfect world walks with Boo her once upon a time night mare and decided to look out from the place Boo used to and still looks outside , and at that moment Scout experienced a out of body experienced and saw what Boo has been seeing from the start .Another incident that happens though out the story is by the main person that preached this philosophy and that was Atticus I’m sure Atticus was always a man that apposed the treatment of blacks in the United States of America but taking a cause like the Tom Robinson case was so risky even some of the more passionate activist would back down , I believe that Atticus was able to look deep into Tom and try to feel what he felt and use the capability to help the accused man and from there help him as mush as possible . And last but not least is more like stepping in the shoes of a group of people , and by that I’m talking about Calpurnia’s success and ability to see the point of view of both the whites and blacks and able to live , work , and survive with both of them , that I believe took a lot of time and effort on Calpurnia part ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.'). In the end it’s always nice to see how the shoe of another person feels from Prada stilettos to Nike sneakers to smelly or fresh .
Theme ( Family background / social classes ) # 3
Family background is important to everyone some more important then others . It can be a good thing to know about someone ‘s past and understand your lineage and family tradition that most of the time travels down from generation to generation . But in the send good things sometimes gets affected by evil or things that could go on used fro example when family background becomes what sets you apart from other and puts you in a class with other most times things can get dirty pretty fast . In the novel To Kill a mockingbird the social class is cut up in 4 levels or caste’s this mirroring what was going on in the US at that time . The first level is consumed of whites , well – educated richer whites with stable family homes and long family ties ( the Finch’s and Mr. Tate ) , the next level is consumed with mid – class farmers and small business owners which may be educated or not but have similar morals with the 1 class ( Cunninghams ), and the then the third class consumes of town drunks , fools , poor trash with no or little education and bad morals ( Ewells) , and the 4th class who are put down under not for there weekly amount or morals but because of there skin color ( tom Robinson ) . The importance of family background plays out in one incident when Aunt Alexander has a chat with Atticus about what he is doing to the family name how people will start looking at him if he keeps on being a n***** - lover ( she did not say that but , what other ‘s will say ). Another incident that happens often but is shown rarely is how Calpurnia and other adult blacks have to call little white boys and girls Mr. and Miss showing the racist looks on life and on the so called caste system . Another example about how connections and family background are important in Maycomb is how people who associate with people of lower classes seem to be pulled down in the social ranking for example Atticus seems to lose his hand in the town he is branded a n***** - lover by the towns people . in the end Family background is very important to understanding one’s past and later future , but like everything else in this world things are often changed to be used for something more sinister.
Theme ( Prejudice / racism ) # 4
Prejudice is a large group which we all belong to. It damages not only our eyes, but also our thoughts and actions. When we getted grouped into the group prejudice ( we all our at some point in time ), not everyone can set them selves free from such hate and racism. Sometimes we see people and think they are our enemies when really they are just a little bit different then us, just because they are a different race or even a different sex. These prejudice views are not uncommon, even though most of the time they are wrong just imagined by fear and hate . To Kill a Mockingbird presents many different types of prejudice, the situations also show that prejudice can be overthrown and banished. An example of viewing things differently is when Aunt Alexandra forbid Scout to play with Walter Cunningham, a poor boy which Scout attends school with. This is because Aunt Alexandra sees Walter and his family as poor and beneath the Finches who our considered by most to be one of the top families in the area, in her words," ...they're good folks. But they're not our kind of folks." Scout on the other hand with her personality and the teaching she hears from her father ,doesn't care about how much money Walter has but about his potential to be a friend. She doesn't let stupid and illogical things like money damage her judgment of people. The most typical of all prejudice views is that of race , but to me and many others their only one race the human race black , white , yellow we are all human. An example of this is during Tom Robinsons trial. Tom was a black man accused of raping a white woman, a crime that is punishable by the death penalty , in the form of the diabolical form of the electric chair. Even though all the facts proved that he didn't do it, the jury still found him guilty "beyond a reasonable doubt". Tom's life has been sacrificed to racism by the people who were there to protect him. The justice system didn't allow this man to have a fair trial because of the color of his skin. They disregarded his citizenship or that of the other minorities, all they could focus on was his race because that was all racism let them see. But Prejudice can be overcome if you let it , and it is proven over and over again. There are many people out there that are willing to lose everything they have to fight for what's right. Take Atticus Finch for example, he knew that Tom wouldn't win but he defended him anyway. He didn't care what people thought, he just knew that the truth had to be heard even if it was not considered. The children also show that there is hope in the future for people to be nonjudgmental. They didn't understand how a jury could convict a man whom they knew was innocent and it shocked them. Atticus explained to them that it has happened before and will happen again, sadly he also told them,"... when they do it - it seems that only the children weep. .." Prejudice showed it's face many times in To Kill a Mocking Bird, and in some of those instances it showed itself being overcome. From economical prejudice against the Cunninghams to racial prejudice against Tom Robinson, the book has displayed every aspect of how people can look to the wrong side of the highway and see things completely differently then the person standing next to them. It's situations like the ones given in this book that make me angry that society gives people ideas like these to write about. If we can wipe prejudice clean, people who know what's right wouldn't have to hold the guilt for all those people who do wrong. In the end , I know prejudice and racism will be no more with people starting to understand there reall is not a difference maybe people will start to embrace themselves more
Theme ( Coming of age / loss of innocence )
To Kill A Mockingbird was not made to be a fairytale or to be a book a child was supposed to read and come out thinking the same they did before they read the book . This book was made to try to show what was really like in the real world and how it was really like to be faced with things you had no control over , you never plan when you’re going to see the thing that makes you grow up and helps you come of age or when you experience a moment where you finally lose your innocence . This book is based around young children finding them selves in a difficult world and time a time of differences and battles that will change their lives forever . One of the main characters that I believe had what you call a change of attitude or look of life . He began to understand what was really going on in the world he began to see what justice was like his father has been doing for all his adult life he began to grow up. One of the incidents that evolved Jem was when Dill still a small boy ran all the way from to stay with his aunt but to scared to confront her he hinds under Scouts bed , Scout extremely happy to have one of her best friends under bed plans to keep Dill under there but Jem seeing this decides to the right thing and tell his father who will know more on what to do with Dill . Another incident is with Scout in the end of the book where relies where she went wrong in figuring Boo out and how mush she has changed in the past year , at this point Scout is moving away what she used to be and know trying to be what her brother has already down now. The fact is the loose of innocence is not terribly a bad thing but a time for moving on and growing to a better and securing person .
Character # 1( Atticus )
Atticus is one of those characters that are characterized with such great qualities that it makes himself a more admirable and loveable character . Atticus is what you call a real southern gentlemen on of the few men in Maycomb that can truly claim lineage in the small Alabama town . but he never holds himself at high regard or puts himself on petal stool , not once in the novel did atticus claim to be superior to anyone in the book even if he did hold higher morals and character then some of Harpers many interesting and developed characters .One of the main characteristics that I believe makes Atticus a more better of a man to read about is his intelligence , he unlike so many other people from his crop does not depend on his family inheritance or pride to help him get his way. Being a Law school graduate Atticus knows a lot of interesting and important things that the town people of Maycomb will never know about , for example since the being Atticus was shown to be a man that held education at the highest regard and made sure to install it in his children in a early age , he also seemed to know what racism really was and how easy it corrupt even the finest of gentlemen and ladies . another great thing about example about Atticus is wisdom and the ability to see through other people’s shoes and try to understand their point of view and pain and he preaches this philosophy every chance he gets especially to his young children that will use his teaching to better understand them selves and others around him (“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view — until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” --Atticus (pg. 30) .Another great thing about Atticus is his great love for justice and all the great qualities that comes along with the terrioty for example Atticus is willing to give way everything he’s got , everything he has rightfully won just for doing the right thing and defending a innocent black man at a time when Alabama was fighting the wounds of racism and the Great Depression . ( "As you grow older you’ll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don’t you forget it— whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, of how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash.”--Atticus (pg. 200)) and (“It’s not okay to hate anybody.”—Atticus (pg. 246)) are great quotes made by Atticus that truly showed his true colors and what he truly stood for . In the end Atticus Finch has proven him self to be an intelligent , brave which he showed by going against what was thought to be the right thing and jumping on a idea of freedom and equality , wisdom , and last but not least sympathy for what is evil and embracing what is good . Atticus Finch is the true definition of a southern gentlemen with a good head on his shoulders.
Character # 2 ( Jem )
Jem Finch born into a pretty stable family with a great educated father who comes from a long line of respected southern men seemed to have every thing going for him and in fact things never really got to bad for him but he did experience great disappointments, grief, and had a lot of rapid changes happen to him in his life. To me and many other Jem Finch seems to be the most changed and the one with the most evolution between the beginnings of the book to the end of it. He has experienced some akward situations and has found himself in some pretty dangerous places but he still seemed to hold his important and primary characteristics and morals taught by his father. One of the earlier characteristics of Jem the showed early on was the willingness to learn and listen which he and scout both carry and where most likely taught by that by Atticus . even thought that characteristic has proven to be useful it has landed him in some trouble for example how easy for him to believe the stories about Boo and how realistic he told them to Scout and Dill (Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.). Another characteristic that proves to be one of the deepest once to date is his bravery and how fast he is to show his strengths , this characteristic ends up to be very important when he shows it when one of the most important people in his life comes close to death ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety). Also another great characteristics that he probably learned from his father is his thoughts on the importance of justice and the actions he does to try to get a little bit closer for finch line ( Jem If there's just one kind of folks, why can't they get along with each other? If they're all alike, why do they go out of their way to despise each other? )Since the start of the novel we always know that Jem know a little bit more in about what was happening in this world then Scout and even then some of Maycombs adults. By the end of the book it seemed like we had finally saw what Jem really represented and we had finally had saw a full swing of evolution of Jem’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. Jem started out in the book as a small innocent youngster that most important interest was boogie monsters and scary stories to a young man that understood the bases of good ( loving and understanding each other )and the effects of evil ( racism and prejudice ) . Jem finch truly is the most evolved character and I don’t believe his story ends when the book closes.
Character # 3 ( Scout )
Scout Finch is a very unusual girl especially a girl in the Great depression in the 1930’s when girls where expected to were hand made dresses and learn etiquette and strive to be a the perfect southern bell, Scout is out climbing tree’s with her brother and play mate, rolling around in tires and harassing cranky old women down the street. But scout is also unusual in something else also and that is that she is unusually smart actually very smart ,she has already been able to read and write with the help with her father and has already thinking about the worlds many and diverse problems ( Scout There's just one kind of folks. Folks. ) . But even though she is a very intelligent girl she is also very hard headed and feisty which adds to her tom – boy appeal that makes her so loveable and a kind of feminist icon , scout carries great confidence and does not back down to any battle not even when the opponent seems and is the one with the upper hand , even though Scout knows that what she does sometimes is not necessary she still has no problem in breaking the rules because that’s her personality and she is not ready into being someone that truly doesn’t embody her presence (Atticus had promised me he would wear me out if he ever heard of me fightin' any more. I was far too old and too big for such childish things, and the sooner I learned to hold in, the better off everybody would be. ). Another great thing about Scout is that she truly does what is right what she believes is right, scout never truly had any bad intention behind any of her motives even if they sometimes turned into something unnecessary or very quite foolish for example when she went in front of a lynching mob that were at the point of there momentum and challenged them with only a smile and some few words (Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) In the end Scout is able to prove her self to be one of the rare creatures of yester year the woman ( girl ) with a personality , a say , a real head on her shoulders , and the willingness to be independent and strong for your self and many other in your presence , she may have made some foolish and childless mistakes but she has also been able to learn and better understand life and come out a better and more mature lady (Neighbors bring food with death, and flowers with sickness, and little things in between. Boo was our neighbor. He gave us two soap dolls, a broken watch and chain, a knife, and our lives. )
Character # 4 ( Calpurnia )
We don’t really get to experience Calpurnia’s character and appeal as mush as we like but we to get to see many beautiful and motherly characteristics from what we do know about her. We know Calpurnia is an American woman of African descent , we also know that she is probably a lady who is the daughter of a man who’s father was a slave and not one of recent immigration . but on of the most important things we know about Calpurnia is the she is since the death of the Finch’s childrens mothers death the primary care taker or motherly figure of both Scout and Jem and by how the children treat they also see Calpurnia as a great mother role and a very important figure in their lives .And by the way she treats the young children we now know that she is more of the disciplinarian to the children of the Finch house ( Calpurnia -Don't matter who they are, anybody sets foot in this house, they are company and don't let me catch you remarking on their ways like you were so high and mighty.)………(.That boy is your company. And if he wants to eat up that tablecloth, you let him, you hear) And ……….( “ if you can't act fit to eat like folks, you can just set here and eat in the kitchen.”) We also find some other interesting characteristics like for example that she is a very intelligent even though she and many other African – Americans at the time are robbed to their right at education. But it’s not knowledge of mathematics and history but knowledge at how she is able to translate her behavior from one race to another without being false to her. She is both successful to appear very knowledgeable to her “white family “and the people of their world, but also is still same old Calpurnia when she is at home with other black people in her every day environment ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.') . Calpurnia like so many other woman and men of minority classes at the time ,found a healthy line of interacting with both higher class whites and blacks , Latino’s , Asians , and native Americans from their own neighborhood without feeling like they abandoning their culture and their lineage . Calpurnia is the primary mother figure in the story and without her strong will scout and Jem would not have turned out like they did, Miss. Maudi and other motherly figures are great but not of them can compare to the strong willing, tough, loving, and very uniquely smart Calpurnia .
Character # 5 ( Miss. Maudie )
Miss. Maudie is considered to most kids in the neighborhood as the most trust worthy and friendly adult for her more clear understanding of younger children and her unusual act of not tattle telling on the mischievous act some of the children commit. Maybe one of Miss. Maudie most loveable fans is Scout, other then her father Miss. Maudie is one of the most respected adults in Scout’s life. Unlike some adults Miss. Maudie does not seem to mind Scouts rash attitude, tom – boy looks, and fiery temper. In fact she seems to enjoy like if it is a look back in to her child hood in some way. So from the start of the novel we found out some amazing characteristics about Miss. Maudie for example that she is a very optimistic person that she chooses to see things from a brighter light like when her house was unfortunately burned to the ground Miss. Maudie was able to look at a different angle and see the better out come from this dire situation ( Mrs. . maudie – “ I was planning to get a smaller place anyway …just a better way to get rid of it “) this characteristic makes Miss. Maudie a more loveable and admirable character in a book that is filled with many unpleasant men and woman . Another great characteristic the brightens Miss. Maudie is the love for justice and equality that she shares with Atticus maybe the reason they are quite great friends, her dislike for racism is shown by how she talks about the matter (2) "What I meant was, if Atticus Finch drank until he was drunk he wouldn't be as hard as some men are at their best. There are just some kind of men who-who're so busy worrying about the next world they've never learned to live in this one, and you can look down the street and see the results." -Miss Maudie (52) ) .And last but not least another thing that characterizes Miss. Maudie is the love a simple like and her sympathy for other who have nothing , she shows it when she is one of the only people that do not attend the Tom Robinson case for the sake that she’s it as a blood bath or helping pulling the trigger to an innocent man ( Miss. . Maudie - “ There’s’ no reason for me to go there ..what’s the fun to watch a man walk to his death “ ) In the end Miss. Maudie proved her self to be a loyal and helpful character to our main characters in the time of need , she was there when you needed a talk and she was also their when you needed someone to protect you , Miss. Maudie has rightfully won a place with Calpurnia as a great mother figure , feminist personal, and in the end a good old southern lady .
Character # 6 ( Dill )
Charles Baker Harris known by Dill by the closest of his friends is scouts and Jem’s summer play pal and close friend . Dill is around the same age as Scout and you can tell by his childish behavior him and Scout share while Jem is starting to grow up and becoming a man and starting to see the world as it is . In most of the story Jem is seen has a overly , funny , diminutive , and imaginative boy , his character does not experience the amount of change that Scout and Jem experience but maybe he does but because his role in the novel is not large he still under goes some changes , and his sensitive behavior comes to bloom when he sees the injustice of the “Tom Robinson Case “. In the start of the novel Dill is introduced as Mrs. Rachel’s nephew who comes to visit over summer because of family issue’s ( later introduced in the book ) we also find out one of Dill’s characteristics and that’ gullibility , Dill seems to be easily swayed by the existences of the legend of Boo Riley ( Dill Harris: Let's go down to the courthouse and see the room that they locked Boo up in. My aunt says it's bat-infested, and he nearly died from the mildew. Come on. I bet they got chains and instruments of torture down there.) We also fing out that Dill is very dependent over other’s and quickly attachs him self with the Finch siblings especially Jem , when they first met you king of felt Dill wanted to out do the siblings , but that quickly changed when there adventures with Boo started (Jem: There goes the meanest man that ever took a breath of life. Dill Harris: Why is he the meanest man? Jem: Well, for one thing, he has a boy named Boo that he keeps chained to a bed in the house over yonder. Boo only comes out at night when you're asleep and it's pitch-dark. When you wake up at night, you can hear him. Once I heard him scratchin' on our screen door, but he was gone by the time Atticus got there.
Dill Harris: I wonder what he does in there? I wonder what he looks like?
Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.)So we know that Dill was very gullible , and also dependent but we later find out that Dill also very sensitive no matter how mush he tries to make him self look like in front of Jem and sometimes Scout , for example during a time when Dill was not staying at his aunts house he randomly appeared at the Finch’s house under Scout’s bed to be in fact , for the reason that his parent were not treating him the way he liked ( Dill : “ they don’t care about me any more ….they don’t love me “ ) another innocent was during the Tom Robinson trials when Dill saw the harsh treatment that the prosecutors were forcing down on Tom , he burst in to tears with Scout trying to quite him down . So in conclusion we find out that Dill is only just a boy that finds him self at a time of desperate situations , he may not have been in the front line of the battle but he sure was there to experience the amount of hatred and prejudice in the town at that time .
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Bertrand - To Kill A Mockingbird?
Many people think they just pick up a book and read the words.
First of all, get a book. This can be a book you want to read, or a book assigned for school or work, or even a book you're reading because someone you know loves it. Try for something you're interested in, as it will be easier to read.
Once you have your book, go through the steps you would when choosing a book to read (such as reading the inside of the jacket and the author info). It will help prepare you for what the book is about and you'll be able to sink in a little more.
Start reading. No matter how good the book is, or how boring, don't skip over parts or read too quickly. You want to absorb each word and understand every sentence. That's what real reading is, understanding the words on the page.
Keep track of what you've read. Mark your page when you need to put the book down. (see tips) It's annoying to delay your reading with a page search every time you start to read.
Make an effort. This step is most deceptive. Real reading is trying hard to understand, to immerse yourself, rather then just roboticly drudging through.
If you are getting bored, try to stick with your book. Sometimes there will be a lull in the action or romance or whatever the book is about, but give the book a chance to regain your attention.
Be careful how you mark your book! This is especially true with library and borrowed books. It's very annoying to find a book that is dog-eared and has a cracked spine from being laid open and face-down. Use a bookmark, and something decent for that bookmark; not just some piece of junk that could harm the book.
Always try to keep a pocket dictionary or a reader's dictionary with you when you read any book. It might seem easy, but one misunderstood word can make you miss the entire point or plot of the book.
Taking good care of books and keeping bookmarks and dictionaries with you won't make you seem like a nerd, it will make you seem well-read and literate.
Books can be a best friend. They can take you to places that you may never see. They can introduce you to things you may never know... but do you know how to read them in order to get the fullest enjoyment possible? This should help.
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Steps
Find a book. Look in the library or in one of the larger bookstores. Search the shelves until you find a book that looks good. Read the first page to see how it reads. If you find yourself already engrossed, then buy it or check it out.
Buy it and take it home. Do not start to read it, until you have the time. If you have to rush reading, because you have to do homework, or prepare dinner, it is best to wait until you are done. Set aside time to do nothing else but read, as it can be at times suspenseful, exciting and relaxing.
Settle into a comfortable chair or get comfortable on the couch. Have a lamp on the back of you, lighting the area where you are reading. So that you do not have to get up soon after starting to read, make sure you have brought coffee, candy, popcorn, or any other refreshments you might want to have. Make sure the television is off and anything that could distract you is attended to.
Start the book by turning the pages. Do not think about anything else, but what you read. Put yourself into the action or location within the story. Once you get totally engrossed it will be difficult to put the book down.
Note that if you find your eyes closing, or if you feel tired, then place a bookmark into the page, shut the book and place it in a safe place. When tired, the mind wanders, and you will no longer enjoy or retain what you are reading.
In speed reading, what most people do is they try to eliminate the voice you hear in your head. Hearing that voice is called "subvocalization." If you need to read fast, try to keep that going fast. If speed reading, eliminate it entirely. If you've got time to fritter away, it is recommended you keep it, because it really helps to let the words sink in. Read that last sentence again, students.
When you start a book, and find you are not getting interested, read a few more pages. If you still feel bored by the storyline, put it away, and find a more engrossing book.
Join a local library. You can order books as they are released, by your favorite author. Save money by not buying. Return the book after you have finished, and find another book.
It might be hard to get into a book at first, and you might be tempted to give up and read another book. If you think the book is worth reading, keep trying and continue reading to get into the book...some books have better starts than others, but this doesn't make the whole book better.
They have audio books to read while driving in the car. For long trips this can be great.
Try to imagine the story in your head.
If you're renting a book from your school's library, then keep it in your backpack every night after you read it so you won't forget to give it back when you're done with it.
When you are reading a book, you sometimes feel you will never finish it or if you are a slow reader, follow these steps so you read you book quicker.
Start by reading the first chapter as normal
Leave the book and do something else for a while (T.V, computer etc.)
Once you come back to the second chapter, give your self a set time to read , something like 10 minutes to half an hour, that you think you will read the next chapter in,or you could just pick a chapter you want to read to.
When you have finished that chapter, read the next if you think you will finish it in time
Carry on like this whenever you have time,and because you aren't reading loads at a time, you feel you have read it in less time
If you like reading in bed before you go to sleep, instead of having a set time, just pick a chapter you want to get to and read away
If you do set your self a time to read in and don't think you will read the next chapter in time, don't rush the book or you will miss important details, just go over the set time till you have finished that chapter.
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English 11 PAP A4
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“To Kill a Mockingbird “Journal Project”
Themes ( Courage ) #1
Bravery , is a recurring theme in literature and it has been probably since the beginning of time , the Greeks talked about bravery , the Egyptians talked about bravery , and the Victorians talked about bravery . And To Kill A Mockingbird is not left out in this phase , even though bravery comes in different forms and sizes the amount of bravery still counts even when it has no or little impact….also the other great thing about bravery is that sometimes you don’t even know your being brave . One of the earliest and most accountable forms of bravery that plays part in this story is that of Atticus when he a respected white males from a long line of respected long males decided to be the attorney of a unrepresented black man from a long line of unrepresented black males and puts everything on the line for the name of Justice and equality , that was probably one of the biggest impact of bravery in the novel .Another form of bravery that we saw in the book that was caused by emotions that had nothing to truly do with bravery was when Scout ran in front of a murderous mob and fought them off with a smile and some nice words(Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) , her intensions may never be unveiled but we do know that Scout showed a act of stupidly and bravery that day but that may be because of the lack maturity because she was quite young at the time . But one of the most noticeable acts of bravery that appeared in the pages of To Kill A Mockingbird and was in no way accidental was when Jem protected and tried to fight of Mr. Ewell when he attacked him and his sister after a dance at school ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety), this may have been instinct from his new found maturity or it may have been instinct from a brother trying to make sure his sister was safe from such an attack . In the end like so many other works of literature bravery is well represented in this story , we get to see many different types of bravery from big and small from physical and internal but in the end they are all an act of bravery . The theme of bravery in the novel represents the fact that sometimes you need to step out your comfort zone in times of need and show a little bit of bravery .
Theme (Walking in someone’s shows) # 2
The theme of walking in someone else’s shoes has been heavily preached by Atticus and others in the novel To Kill A Mockingbird .Atticus unlike so many others at the time saw things at a different view that saw from what both sides had to say and in the end that’s what made him a great lawyer and was the cause that made him able to present Tom Robinson a great case , even though he lost he was able to put a doubt in the mind’s of the jury taking them two hours for them to decide on the decision on Tom’s life . One of the greatest incidents that happens in the book that have to deal with the saying and theme ( walking in someone else’s shoes ) happens when Scout in the end of the book when she finally caught on the idea of a not so perfect world walks with Boo her once upon a time night mare and decided to look out from the place Boo used to and still looks outside , and at that moment Scout experienced a out of body experienced and saw what Boo has been seeing from the start .Another incident that happens though out the story is by the main person that preached this philosophy and that was Atticus I’m sure Atticus was always a man that apposed the treatment of blacks in the United States of America but taking a cause like the Tom Robinson case was so risky even some of the more passionate activist would back down , I believe that Atticus was able to look deep into Tom and try to feel what he felt and use the capability to help the accused man and from there help him as mush as possible . And last but not least is more like stepping in the shoes of a group of people , and by that I’m talking about Calpurnia’s success and ability to see the point of view of both the whites and blacks and able to live , work , and survive with both of them , that I believe took a lot of time and effort on Calpurnia part ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.'). In the end it’s always nice to see how the shoe of another person feels from Prada stilettos to Nike sneakers to smelly or fresh .
Theme ( Family background / social classes ) # 3
Family background is important to everyone some more important then others . It can be a good thing to know about someone ‘s past and understand your lineage and family tradition that most of the time travels down from generation to generation . But in the send good things sometimes gets affected by evil or things that could go on used fro example when family background becomes what sets you apart from other and puts you in a class with other most times things can get dirty pretty fast . In the novel To Kill a mockingbird the social class is cut up in 4 levels or caste’s this mirroring what was going on in the US at that time . The first level is consumed of whites , well – educated richer whites with stable family homes and long family ties ( the Finch’s and Mr. Tate ) , the next level is consumed with mid – class farmers and small business owners which may be educated or not but have similar morals with the 1 class ( Cunninghams ), and the then the third class consumes of town drunks , fools , poor trash with no or little education and bad morals ( Ewells) , and the 4th class who are put down under not for there weekly amount or morals but because of there skin color ( tom Robinson ) . The importance of family background plays out in one incident when Aunt Alexander has a chat with Atticus about what he is doing to the family name how people will start looking at him if he keeps on being a n***** - lover ( she did not say that but , what other ‘s will say ). Another incident that happens often but is shown rarely is how Calpurnia and other adult blacks have to call little white boys and girls Mr. and Miss showing the racist looks on life and on the so called caste system . Another example about how connections and family background are important in Maycomb is how people who associate with people of lower classes seem to be pulled down in the social ranking for example Atticus seems to lose his hand in the town he is branded a n***** - lover by the towns people . in the end Family background is very important to understanding one’s past and later future , but like everything else in this world things are often changed to be used for something more sinister.
Theme ( Prejudice / racism ) # 4
Prejudice is a large group which we all belong to. It damages not only our eyes, but also our thoughts and actions. When we getted grouped into the group prejudice ( we all our at some point in time ), not everyone can set them selves free from such hate and racism. Sometimes we see people and think they are our enemies when really they are just a little bit different then us, just because they are a different race or even a different sex. These prejudice views are not uncommon, even though most of the time they are wrong just imagined by fear and hate . To Kill a Mockingbird presents many different types of prejudice, the situations also show that prejudice can be overthrown and banished. An example of viewing things differently is when Aunt Alexandra forbid Scout to play with Walter Cunningham, a poor boy which Scout attends school with. This is because Aunt Alexandra sees Walter and his family as poor and beneath the Finches who our considered by most to be one of the top families in the area, in her words," ...they're good folks. But they're not our kind of folks." Scout on the other hand with her personality and the teaching she hears from her father ,doesn't care about how much money Walter has but about his potential to be a friend. She doesn't let stupid and illogical things like money damage her judgment of people. The most typical of all prejudice views is that of race , but to me and many others their only one race the human race black , white , yellow we are all human. An example of this is during Tom Robinsons trial. Tom was a black man accused of raping a white woman, a crime that is punishable by the death penalty , in the form of the diabolical form of the electric chair. Even though all the facts proved that he didn't do it, the jury still found him guilty "beyond a reasonable doubt". Tom's life has been sacrificed to racism by the people who were there to protect him. The justice system didn't allow this man to have a fair trial because of the color of his skin. They disregarded his citizenship or that of the other minorities, all they could focus on was his race because that was all racism let them see. But Prejudice can be overcome if you let it , and it is proven over and over again. There are many people out there that are willing to lose everything they have to fight for what's right. Take Atticus Finch for example, he knew that Tom wouldn't win but he defended him anyway. He didn't care what people thought, he just knew that the truth had to be heard even if it was not considered. The children also show that there is hope in the future for people to be nonjudgmental. They didn't understand how a jury could convict a man whom they knew was innocent and it shocked them. Atticus explained to them that it has happened before and will happen again, sadly he also told them,"... when they do it - it seems that only the children weep. .." Prejudice showed it's face many times in To Kill a Mocking Bird, and in some of those instances it showed itself being overcome. From economical prejudice against the Cunninghams to racial prejudice against Tom Robinson, the book has displayed every aspect of how people can look to the wrong side of the highway and see things completely differently then the person standing next to them. It's situations like the ones given in this book that make me angry that society gives people ideas like these to write about. If we can wipe prejudice clean, people who know what's right wouldn't have to hold the guilt for all those people who do wrong. In the end , I know prejudice and racism will be no more with people starting to understand there reall is not a difference maybe people will start to embrace themselves more
Theme ( Coming of age / loss of innocence )
To Kill A Mockingbird was not made to be a fairytale or to be a book a child was supposed to read and come out thinking the same they did before they read the book . This book was made to try to show what was really like in the real world and how it was really like to be faced with things you had no control over , you never plan when you’re going to see the thing that makes you grow up and helps you come of age or when you experience a moment where you finally lose your innocence . This book is based around young children finding them selves in a difficult world and time a time of differences and battles that will change their lives forever . One of the main characters that I believe had what you call a change of attitude or look of life . He began to understand what was really going on in the world he began to see what justice was like his father has been doing for all his adult life he began to grow up. One of the incidents that evolved Jem was when Dill still a small boy ran all the way from to stay with his aunt but to scared to confront her he hinds under Scouts bed , Scout extremely happy to have one of her best friends under bed plans to keep Dill under there but Jem seeing this decides to the right thing and tell his father who will know more on what to do with Dill . Another incident is with Scout in the end of the book where relies where she went wrong in figuring Boo out and how mush she has changed in the past year , at this point Scout is moving away what she used to be and know trying to be what her brother has already down now. The fact is the loose of innocence is not terribly a bad thing but a time for moving on and growing to a better and securing person .
Character # 1( Atticus )
Atticus is one of those characters that are characterized with such great qualities that it makes himself a more admirable and loveable character . Atticus is what you call a real southern gentlemen on of the few men in Maycomb that can truly claim lineage in the small Alabama town . but he never holds himself at high regard or puts himself on petal stool , not once in the novel did atticus claim to be superior to anyone in the book even if he did hold higher morals and character then some of Harpers many interesting and developed characters .One of the main characteristics that I believe makes Atticus a more better of a man to read about is his intelligence , he unlike so many other people from his crop does not depend on his family inheritance or pride to help him get his way. Being a Law school graduate Atticus knows a lot of interesting and important things that the town people of Maycomb will never know about , for example since the being Atticus was shown to be a man that held education at the highest regard and made sure to install it in his children in a early age , he also seemed to know what racism really was and how easy it corrupt even the finest of gentlemen and ladies . another great thing about example about Atticus is wisdom and the ability to see through other people’s shoes and try to understand their point of view and pain and he preaches this philosophy every chance he gets especially to his young children that will use his teaching to better understand them selves and others around him (“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view — until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” --Atticus (pg. 30) .Another great thing about Atticus is his great love for justice and all the great qualities that comes along with the terrioty for example Atticus is willing to give way everything he’s got , everything he has rightfully won just for doing the right thing and defending a innocent black man at a time when Alabama was fighting the wounds of racism and the Great Depression . ( "As you grow older you’ll see white men cheat black men every day of your life, but let me tell you something and don’t you forget it— whenever a white man does that to a black man, no matter who he is, how rich he is, of how fine a family he comes from, that white man is trash.”--Atticus (pg. 200)) and (“It’s not okay to hate anybody.”—Atticus (pg. 246)) are great quotes made by Atticus that truly showed his true colors and what he truly stood for . In the end Atticus Finch has proven him self to be an intelligent , brave which he showed by going against what was thought to be the right thing and jumping on a idea of freedom and equality , wisdom , and last but not least sympathy for what is evil and embracing what is good . Atticus Finch is the true definition of a southern gentlemen with a good head on his shoulders.
Character # 2 ( Jem )
Jem Finch born into a pretty stable family with a great educated father who comes from a long line of respected southern men seemed to have every thing going for him and in fact things never really got to bad for him but he did experience great disappointments, grief, and had a lot of rapid changes happen to him in his life. To me and many other Jem Finch seems to be the most changed and the one with the most evolution between the beginnings of the book to the end of it. He has experienced some akward situations and has found himself in some pretty dangerous places but he still seemed to hold his important and primary characteristics and morals taught by his father. One of the earlier characteristics of Jem the showed early on was the willingness to learn and listen which he and scout both carry and where most likely taught by that by Atticus . even thought that characteristic has proven to be useful it has landed him in some trouble for example how easy for him to believe the stories about Boo and how realistic he told them to Scout and Dill (Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.). Another characteristic that proves to be one of the deepest once to date is his bravery and how fast he is to show his strengths , this characteristic ends up to be very important when he shows it when one of the most important people in his life comes close to death ( “ Run , Scout ! Run, Run!” Jem screamed ……..Jem risks his life for scout to make it to safety). Also another great characteristics that he probably learned from his father is his thoughts on the importance of justice and the actions he does to try to get a little bit closer for finch line ( Jem If there's just one kind of folks, why can't they get along with each other? If they're all alike, why do they go out of their way to despise each other? )Since the start of the novel we always know that Jem know a little bit more in about what was happening in this world then Scout and even then some of Maycombs adults. By the end of the book it seemed like we had finally saw what Jem really represented and we had finally had saw a full swing of evolution of Jem’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. Jem started out in the book as a small innocent youngster that most important interest was boogie monsters and scary stories to a young man that understood the bases of good ( loving and understanding each other )and the effects of evil ( racism and prejudice ) . Jem finch truly is the most evolved character and I don’t believe his story ends when the book closes.
Character # 3 ( Scout )
Scout Finch is a very unusual girl especially a girl in the Great depression in the 1930’s when girls where expected to were hand made dresses and learn etiquette and strive to be a the perfect southern bell, Scout is out climbing tree’s with her brother and play mate, rolling around in tires and harassing cranky old women down the street. But scout is also unusual in something else also and that is that she is unusually smart actually very smart ,she has already been able to read and write with the help with her father and has already thinking about the worlds many and diverse problems ( Scout There's just one kind of folks. Folks. ) . But even though she is a very intelligent girl she is also very hard headed and feisty which adds to her tom – boy appeal that makes her so loveable and a kind of feminist icon , scout carries great confidence and does not back down to any battle not even when the opponent seems and is the one with the upper hand , even though Scout knows that what she does sometimes is not necessary she still has no problem in breaking the rules because that’s her personality and she is not ready into being someone that truly doesn’t embody her presence (Atticus had promised me he would wear me out if he ever heard of me fightin' any more. I was far too old and too big for such childish things, and the sooner I learned to hold in, the better off everybody would be. ). Another great thing about Scout is that she truly does what is right what she believes is right, scout never truly had any bad intention behind any of her motives even if they sometimes turned into something unnecessary or very quite foolish for example when she went in front of a lynching mob that were at the point of there momentum and challenged them with only a smile and some few words (Don’t you remember me, Mr. Cunningham? I'm Jean Louise Finch. You brought us some hickory nuts one early morning, remember? We had a talk. I went and got my daddy to come out and thank you. I go to school with your boy. I go to school with Walter; he's a nice boy.) In the end Scout is able to prove her self to be one of the rare creatures of yester year the woman ( girl ) with a personality , a say , a real head on her shoulders , and the willingness to be independent and strong for your self and many other in your presence , she may have made some foolish and childless mistakes but she has also been able to learn and better understand life and come out a better and more mature lady (Neighbors bring food with death, and flowers with sickness, and little things in between. Boo was our neighbor. He gave us two soap dolls, a broken watch and chain, a knife, and our lives. )
Character # 4 ( Calpurnia )
We don’t really get to experience Calpurnia’s character and appeal as mush as we like but we to get to see many beautiful and motherly characteristics from what we do know about her. We know Calpurnia is an American woman of African descent , we also know that she is probably a lady who is the daughter of a man who’s father was a slave and not one of recent immigration . but on of the most important things we know about Calpurnia is the she is since the death of the Finch’s childrens mothers death the primary care taker or motherly figure of both Scout and Jem and by how the children treat they also see Calpurnia as a great mother role and a very important figure in their lives .And by the way she treats the young children we now know that she is more of the disciplinarian to the children of the Finch house ( Calpurnia -Don't matter who they are, anybody sets foot in this house, they are company and don't let me catch you remarking on their ways like you were so high and mighty.)………(.That boy is your company. And if he wants to eat up that tablecloth, you let him, you hear) And ……….( “ if you can't act fit to eat like folks, you can just set here and eat in the kitchen.”) We also find some other interesting characteristics like for example that she is a very intelligent even though she and many other African – Americans at the time are robbed to their right at education. But it’s not knowledge of mathematics and history but knowledge at how she is able to translate her behavior from one race to another without being false to her. She is both successful to appear very knowledgeable to her “white family “and the people of their world, but also is still same old Calpurnia when she is at home with other black people in her every day environment ('It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike - in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language.') . Calpurnia like so many other woman and men of minority classes at the time ,found a healthy line of interacting with both higher class whites and blacks , Latino’s , Asians , and native Americans from their own neighborhood without feeling like they abandoning their culture and their lineage . Calpurnia is the primary mother figure in the story and without her strong will scout and Jem would not have turned out like they did, Miss. Maudi and other motherly figures are great but not of them can compare to the strong willing, tough, loving, and very uniquely smart Calpurnia .
Character # 5 ( Miss. Maudie )
Miss. Maudie is considered to most kids in the neighborhood as the most trust worthy and friendly adult for her more clear understanding of younger children and her unusual act of not tattle telling on the mischievous act some of the children commit. Maybe one of Miss. Maudie most loveable fans is Scout, other then her father Miss. Maudie is one of the most respected adults in Scout’s life. Unlike some adults Miss. Maudie does not seem to mind Scouts rash attitude, tom – boy looks, and fiery temper. In fact she seems to enjoy like if it is a look back in to her child hood in some way. So from the start of the novel we found out some amazing characteristics about Miss. Maudie for example that she is a very optimistic person that she chooses to see things from a brighter light like when her house was unfortunately burned to the ground Miss. Maudie was able to look at a different angle and see the better out come from this dire situation ( Mrs. . maudie – “ I was planning to get a smaller place anyway …just a better way to get rid of it “) this characteristic makes Miss. Maudie a more loveable and admirable character in a book that is filled with many unpleasant men and woman . Another great characteristic the brightens Miss. Maudie is the love for justice and equality that she shares with Atticus maybe the reason they are quite great friends, her dislike for racism is shown by how she talks about the matter (2) "What I meant was, if Atticus Finch drank until he was drunk he wouldn't be as hard as some men are at their best. There are just some kind of men who-who're so busy worrying about the next world they've never learned to live in this one, and you can look down the street and see the results." -Miss Maudie (52) ) .And last but not least another thing that characterizes Miss. Maudie is the love a simple like and her sympathy for other who have nothing , she shows it when she is one of the only people that do not attend the Tom Robinson case for the sake that she’s it as a blood bath or helping pulling the trigger to an innocent man ( Miss. . Maudie - “ There’s’ no reason for me to go there ..what’s the fun to watch a man walk to his death “ ) In the end Miss. Maudie proved her self to be a loyal and helpful character to our main characters in the time of need , she was there when you needed a talk and she was also their when you needed someone to protect you , Miss. Maudie has rightfully won a place with Calpurnia as a great mother figure , feminist personal, and in the end a good old southern lady .
Character # 6 ( Dill )
Charles Baker Harris known by Dill by the closest of his friends is scouts and Jem’s summer play pal and close friend . Dill is around the same age as Scout and you can tell by his childish behavior him and Scout share while Jem is starting to grow up and becoming a man and starting to see the world as it is . In most of the story Jem is seen has a overly , funny , diminutive , and imaginative boy , his character does not experience the amount of change that Scout and Jem experience but maybe he does but because his role in the novel is not large he still under goes some changes , and his sensitive behavior comes to bloom when he sees the injustice of the “Tom Robinson Case “. In the start of the novel Dill is introduced as Mrs. Rachel’s nephew who comes to visit over summer because of family issue’s ( later introduced in the book ) we also find out one of Dill’s characteristics and that’ gullibility , Dill seems to be easily swayed by the existences of the legend of Boo Riley ( Dill Harris: Let's go down to the courthouse and see the room that they locked Boo up in. My aunt says it's bat-infested, and he nearly died from the mildew. Come on. I bet they got chains and instruments of torture down there.) We also fing out that Dill is very dependent over other’s and quickly attachs him self with the Finch siblings especially Jem , when they first met you king of felt Dill wanted to out do the siblings , but that quickly changed when there adventures with Boo started (Jem: There goes the meanest man that ever took a breath of life. Dill Harris: Why is he the meanest man? Jem: Well, for one thing, he has a boy named Boo that he keeps chained to a bed in the house over yonder. Boo only comes out at night when you're asleep and it's pitch-dark. When you wake up at night, you can hear him. Once I heard him scratchin' on our screen door, but he was gone by the time Atticus got there.
Dill Harris: I wonder what he does in there? I wonder what he looks like?
Jem: Well, judgin' from his tracks, he's about six and a half feet tall. He eats raw squirrels and all the cats he can catch. There's a long, jagged scar that runs all the way across his face. His teeth are yella and rotten. His eyes are popped. And he drools most of the time.)So we know that Dill was very gullible , and also dependent but we later find out that Dill also very sensitive no matter how mush he tries to make him self look like in front of Jem and sometimes Scout , for example during a time when Dill was not staying at his aunts house he randomly appeared at the Finch’s house under Scout’s bed to be in fact , for the reason that his parent were not treating him the way he liked ( Dill : “ they don’t care about me any more ….they don’t love me “ ) another innocent was during the Tom Robinson trials when Dill saw the harsh treatment that the prosecutors were forcing down on Tom , he burst in to tears with Scout trying to quite him down . So in conclusion we find out that Dill is only just a boy that finds him self at a time of desperate situations , he may not have been in the front line of the battle but he sure was there to experience the amount of hatred and prejudice in the town at that time .
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Bertrand - To Kill A Mockingbird?
Many people think they just pick up a book and read the words.
First of all, get a book. This can be a book you want to read, or a book assigned for school or work, or even a book you're reading because someone you know loves it. Try for something you're interested in, as it will be easier to read.
Once you have your book, go through the steps you would when choosing a book to read (such as reading the inside of the jacket and the author info). It will help prepare you for what the book is about and you'll be able to sink in a little more.
Start reading. No matter how good the book is, or how boring, don't skip over parts or read too quickly. You want to absorb each word and understand every sentence. That's what real reading is, understanding the words on the page.
Keep track of what you've read. Mark your page when you need to put the book down. (see tips) It's annoying to delay your reading with a page search every time you start to read.
Make an effort. This step is most deceptive. Real reading is trying hard to understand, to immerse yourself, rather then just roboticly drudging through.
If you are getting bored, try to stick with your book. Sometimes there will be a lull in the action or romance or whatever the book is about, but give the book a chance to regain your attention.
Be careful how you mark your book! This is especially true with library and borrowed books. It's very annoying to find a book that is dog-eared and has a cracked spine from being laid open and face-down. Use a bookmark, and something decent for that bookmark; not just some piece of junk that could harm the book.
Always try to keep a pocket dictionary or a reader's dictionary with you when you read any book. It might seem easy, but one misunderstood word can make you miss the entire point or plot of the book.
Taking good care of books and keeping bookmarks and dictionaries with you won't make you seem like a nerd, it will make you seem well-read and literate.
Books can be a best friend. They can take you to places that you may never see. They can introduce you to things you may never know... but do you know how to read them in order to get the fullest enjoyment possible? This should help.
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Steps
Find a book. Look in the library or in one of the larger bookstores. Search the shelves until you find a book that looks good. Read the first page to see how it reads. If you find yourself already engrossed, then buy it or check it out.
Buy it and take it home. Do not start to read it, until you have the time. If you have to rush reading, because you have to do homework, or prepare dinner, it is best to wait until you are done. Set aside time to do nothing else but read, as it can be at times suspenseful, exciting and relaxing.
Settle into a comfortable chair or get comfortable on the couch. Have a lamp on the back of you, lighting the area where you are reading. So that you do not have to get up soon after starting to read, make sure you have brought coffee, candy, popcorn, or any other refreshments you might want to have. Make sure the television is off and anything that could distract you is attended to.
Start the book by turning the pages. Do not think about anything else, but what you read. Put yourself into the action or location within the story. Once you get totally engrossed it will be difficult to put the book down.
Note that if you find your eyes closing, or if you feel tired, then place a bookmark into the page, shut the book and place it in a safe place. When tired, the mind wanders, and you will no longer enjoy or retain what you are reading.
In speed reading, what most people do is they try to eliminate the voice you hear in your head. Hearing that voice is called "subvocalization." If you need to read fast, try to keep that going fast. If speed reading, eliminate it entirely. If you've got time to fritter away, it is recommended you keep it, because it really helps to let the words sink in. Read that last sentence again, students.
When you start a book, and find you are not getting interested, read a few more pages. If you still feel bored by the storyline, put it away, and find a more engrossing book.
Join a local library. You can order books as they are released, by your favorite author. Save money by not buying. Return the book after you have finished, and find another book.
It might be hard to get into a book at first, and you might be tempted to give up and read another book. If you think the book is worth reading, keep trying and continue reading to get into the book...some books have better starts than others, but this doesn't make the whole book better.
They have audio books to read while driving in the car. For long trips this can be great.
Try to imagine the story in your head.
If you're renting a book from your school's library, then keep it in your backpack every night after you read it so you won't forget to give it back when you're done with it.
When you are reading a book, you sometimes feel you will never finish it or if you are a slow reader, follow these steps so you read you book quicker.
Start by reading the first chapter as normal
Leave the book and do something else for a while (T.V, computer etc.)
Once you come back to the second chapter, give your self a set time to read , something like 10 minutes to half an hour, that you think you will read the next chapter in,or you could just pick a chapter you want to read to.
When you have finished that chapter, read the next if you think you will finish it in time
Carry on like this whenever you have time,and because you aren't reading loads at a time, you feel you have read it in less time
If you like reading in bed before you go to sleep, instead of having a set time, just pick a chapter you want to get to and read away
If you do set your self a time to read in and don't think you will read the next chapter in time, don't rush the book or you will miss important details, just go over the set time till you have finished that chapter.
Reply:i had to do that exact same thing haha but..whats your question exactly??haha
Reply:You forgot to ask the question!!
Reply:ok?
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I don't know what to do anymore!? Please Help!?
I really like this girl that I have known for about a year now. We are friends however I like her more than a friend and she knows it. I have sent flowers to her school on valentines day, I have given her and her friends rides, I bring her lunch when she is hungry, etc. I did ask her a while ago if she liked me more than a friend and she said "I don't know, its hard, I like u as a friend though". We have been hanging out a lot, and she does sometimes call me but I think its out of sympathy because she knows I like her. Today I'm a little upset and heartbroken because even though she won't admit it to me, I know she likes another guy a lot. Her best friend told me, and there are other signs that point to her liking him. My situation is now that I found out that she dosen't like me despite all of the things I have done for her, is that her friend is taking advantage of me being really nice. Her friend is constantly almost everyday asking me for favors such as borrowing her $ etc. .......
I don't know what to do anymore!? Please Help!?
Get over it, there will be more women out there who will like you, and not pretend to like you just so you do things for them.
Reply:First of all, it appears to me that you lack a back bone. I don't mean that rudely by no means. What I mean is that you seem like the type that'll cater to this girls every desire and wish w/ the hopes that she will respond with affection for you. Unfortunately, girls don't operate that way. We tend to be more attracted to guys with confidence. Men who aren't easily taken advantage of etc... We want to feel that he is almost untouchable like if we thought a guy would be totally fine if we weren't around we would want them to notice us all the more. Basically, I would back off and be unavailable to her for a while. Tell her you're busy when you might not be and surely do not drop what you are doing or have planned to cater to her. It is a huge turn-off. Have you ever heard of the saying, "you want what you can't have"? Same thing in this instance. Also, be prepared to know that she may be interested in this other guy, but act like it doesn't faze you and she'll be wondering why you aren't bothered. Us girls don't like to feel rejected and we find ways to not feel that way. If you are too easy to get then it's not very attractive. I know, "The nice guys always finish last" However, I am speaking from most women's perspective. Good Luck. I hope she realizes your worth, but please I beg you not to be a doormat anymore!!!
Reply:Ok, time for some hard lessons:
1) Once you are in the "friend" category, it's all but impossible to get to the "boyfriend" category.
2) You cannot give that much attention to one girl. When you're that young, most girls are going after attention more than anything else. If she sees you have other people (i.e. people more important than her) it triggers a competition response (where she competes with others for you).
3) You can't bend and give her everything. That makes a good friend, not a good boyfriend.
Move along young grasshopper and take what I have taught you to heart.
Reply:Awwwww!! Thats horrible! Just tell her you love her and you will never think of her the same way. If I was that friend I would LOVE you back!! You sound SOOOOOOOOOOO sweet!! Mabye her friend likes you. If she doesnt like you, something is seriously wrong with her!! Just tell her how you feel.
Reply:Maybe you should stop doing things for her and stop noticing her soooo much. If you pull away there is a good chance she will come after you. There is also the chance she will take it as you are over her. This is a hard decision but sometimes it works. The girl likes all the attention you give her. One day you stop and she wants to know why. You have to decide on your own what to do with this. Since you know her friends are using you, you should stop doing things for them.
Reply:Don't despair just yet. She likes you a lot or she wouldn't have anything to do with you at all.
She likes another guy. They might even date but that doesn't mean she will never fall in love with you.
I say this because I fell in love with a guy friend of mine after several failed relationships with other guys.
If you really do love her a lot, then just hang in there and be there for her when things start to fall apart.
You can win a girl's heart that way.
The part about her saying, "it's hard", when you asked her if she liked you more than just a friend..... That could mean that it's hard for her to tell. She might be thinking about you in that way but doesn't know for sure yet.
Give it a few more weeks and tell her how you feel. Tell her it's ok if she doesn't feel the same way. Tell her you will always be her friend no matter what. That will make her feel more comfortable about being with you. She won't feel pressured.
It happens all the time. Time and patience will tell if the two of you were ever meant to be.
About her girlfriend using you. That's got to stop.
Reply:First of all, you can still be her friend whether she likes you for more than that or not. At your age %26amp; hers, it's more important to have that friend around especially if she dates jerks and will need a shoulder to cry on.
Secondly, stop letting her friend take advantage of you. IS she making promises to hook you guys up or something? Grow a pair and tell her no, it's not going to make her friend like you more. Just keep being the nice thoughtful guy you are and don't let people take advantage of you. That will make her think less of you in the long run.
Reply:Well, nice guys seem to finish last. At least that's what my son has experienced with young women. I think that you should find a nice girl that's looking for a nice guy, cause this girl is a user, and wants a bad boy it sounds like, not a nice guy. Some girls are that way, go figure. I would cut off doing anything for either girl, and go find a decent one. Good luck!
Reply:Easy. She doesn't dig you as a romantic partner; she said it clearly, "I like you as a friend." Men don't listen and women don't lie. Don't let your ego get in the way; it blinds you to the truth. Move on.
And next time, don't give a girl anything until she deserves it. From your context, I can tell that you gave her a "I'm too happy to be here with you" and "Loooovee me, please" message. Girls don't like needy guys (aka Wimpus Americanus). A lot of guys think they can buy women off; you can only buy Mercenaries and Gold Diggers off, but classy good women cannot be bought.
I cannot stress enough the gauging of the woman's Interest Level. She doesn't care about how much YOU like her. She only cares about how much SHE likes you. So if she has at least 51% Interest Level in you (meaning you have a chance), she'll let you know.
So next time remember that women want Confidence, Self-Control, and Challenge. Self-control meaning that you don't get mushy, don't buy her a zillion things, etc. Challenge means that you are hard to get; she has to earn you, not the other way around. You spend scarce amount of time with her, you don't do whatever she asks, you don't be a chump for her friends, etc.
Reply:i say tell the girl you like how you feel adn that you really really wanna give you two a chance....maybe she will realize that your the one she wants more than that other guy and love you for the rest of your days...
now about her friend
i say who the frick carees about her friends..tell the friend straight up no...and if the friend don't like it and complains to the girl you like, tell the girl whats been happening and if she is truely the great person you know she is..she will take ur side
good luck
god bless
luv,
Shannon
Reply:This sort of thing has happened to me before and even though your heart broken their is something you can always do. Forget about her dude I'm a guy and if all you do is go home and think about her after you've taken her to places and what not then that's not what it's all aobut you've got to go out their and find a girl that likes you and that you can really have a lot of fun with. See how that works and if you still like this other girl then go back to her.
Reply:you sound you like you were just doing favors so the girl that you like would like you, not because you wanted to, i mean you wanted to because you like her, but you wanted something in return, you can force her to like you, as for your friend, try to ignore her as much as possible, run away from her, things like that, when she asks for money tell her you dont have any, unless you are rich.
Reply:i know it is hard i have been here but listen...if it is meant to be then it will happen but until that support her and be her friend once somethin bad happens she will prolly realize you are a great guy and give u a chance...you can't push love....love is brought to those who wait!
I don't know what to do anymore!? Please Help!?
Get over it, there will be more women out there who will like you, and not pretend to like you just so you do things for them.
Reply:First of all, it appears to me that you lack a back bone. I don't mean that rudely by no means. What I mean is that you seem like the type that'll cater to this girls every desire and wish w/ the hopes that she will respond with affection for you. Unfortunately, girls don't operate that way. We tend to be more attracted to guys with confidence. Men who aren't easily taken advantage of etc... We want to feel that he is almost untouchable like if we thought a guy would be totally fine if we weren't around we would want them to notice us all the more. Basically, I would back off and be unavailable to her for a while. Tell her you're busy when you might not be and surely do not drop what you are doing or have planned to cater to her. It is a huge turn-off. Have you ever heard of the saying, "you want what you can't have"? Same thing in this instance. Also, be prepared to know that she may be interested in this other guy, but act like it doesn't faze you and she'll be wondering why you aren't bothered. Us girls don't like to feel rejected and we find ways to not feel that way. If you are too easy to get then it's not very attractive. I know, "The nice guys always finish last" However, I am speaking from most women's perspective. Good Luck. I hope she realizes your worth, but please I beg you not to be a doormat anymore!!!
Reply:Ok, time for some hard lessons:
1) Once you are in the "friend" category, it's all but impossible to get to the "boyfriend" category.
2) You cannot give that much attention to one girl. When you're that young, most girls are going after attention more than anything else. If she sees you have other people (i.e. people more important than her) it triggers a competition response (where she competes with others for you).
3) You can't bend and give her everything. That makes a good friend, not a good boyfriend.
Move along young grasshopper and take what I have taught you to heart.
Reply:Awwwww!! Thats horrible! Just tell her you love her and you will never think of her the same way. If I was that friend I would LOVE you back!! You sound SOOOOOOOOOOO sweet!! Mabye her friend likes you. If she doesnt like you, something is seriously wrong with her!! Just tell her how you feel.
Reply:Maybe you should stop doing things for her and stop noticing her soooo much. If you pull away there is a good chance she will come after you. There is also the chance she will take it as you are over her. This is a hard decision but sometimes it works. The girl likes all the attention you give her. One day you stop and she wants to know why. You have to decide on your own what to do with this. Since you know her friends are using you, you should stop doing things for them.
Reply:Don't despair just yet. She likes you a lot or she wouldn't have anything to do with you at all.
She likes another guy. They might even date but that doesn't mean she will never fall in love with you.
I say this because I fell in love with a guy friend of mine after several failed relationships with other guys.
If you really do love her a lot, then just hang in there and be there for her when things start to fall apart.
You can win a girl's heart that way.
The part about her saying, "it's hard", when you asked her if she liked you more than just a friend..... That could mean that it's hard for her to tell. She might be thinking about you in that way but doesn't know for sure yet.
Give it a few more weeks and tell her how you feel. Tell her it's ok if she doesn't feel the same way. Tell her you will always be her friend no matter what. That will make her feel more comfortable about being with you. She won't feel pressured.
It happens all the time. Time and patience will tell if the two of you were ever meant to be.
About her girlfriend using you. That's got to stop.
Reply:First of all, you can still be her friend whether she likes you for more than that or not. At your age %26amp; hers, it's more important to have that friend around especially if she dates jerks and will need a shoulder to cry on.
Secondly, stop letting her friend take advantage of you. IS she making promises to hook you guys up or something? Grow a pair and tell her no, it's not going to make her friend like you more. Just keep being the nice thoughtful guy you are and don't let people take advantage of you. That will make her think less of you in the long run.
Reply:Well, nice guys seem to finish last. At least that's what my son has experienced with young women. I think that you should find a nice girl that's looking for a nice guy, cause this girl is a user, and wants a bad boy it sounds like, not a nice guy. Some girls are that way, go figure. I would cut off doing anything for either girl, and go find a decent one. Good luck!
Reply:Easy. She doesn't dig you as a romantic partner; she said it clearly, "I like you as a friend." Men don't listen and women don't lie. Don't let your ego get in the way; it blinds you to the truth. Move on.
And next time, don't give a girl anything until she deserves it. From your context, I can tell that you gave her a "I'm too happy to be here with you" and "Loooovee me, please" message. Girls don't like needy guys (aka Wimpus Americanus). A lot of guys think they can buy women off; you can only buy Mercenaries and Gold Diggers off, but classy good women cannot be bought.
I cannot stress enough the gauging of the woman's Interest Level. She doesn't care about how much YOU like her. She only cares about how much SHE likes you. So if she has at least 51% Interest Level in you (meaning you have a chance), she'll let you know.
So next time remember that women want Confidence, Self-Control, and Challenge. Self-control meaning that you don't get mushy, don't buy her a zillion things, etc. Challenge means that you are hard to get; she has to earn you, not the other way around. You spend scarce amount of time with her, you don't do whatever she asks, you don't be a chump for her friends, etc.
Reply:i say tell the girl you like how you feel adn that you really really wanna give you two a chance....maybe she will realize that your the one she wants more than that other guy and love you for the rest of your days...
now about her friend
i say who the frick carees about her friends..tell the friend straight up no...and if the friend don't like it and complains to the girl you like, tell the girl whats been happening and if she is truely the great person you know she is..she will take ur side
good luck
god bless
luv,
Shannon
Reply:This sort of thing has happened to me before and even though your heart broken their is something you can always do. Forget about her dude I'm a guy and if all you do is go home and think about her after you've taken her to places and what not then that's not what it's all aobut you've got to go out their and find a girl that likes you and that you can really have a lot of fun with. See how that works and if you still like this other girl then go back to her.
Reply:you sound you like you were just doing favors so the girl that you like would like you, not because you wanted to, i mean you wanted to because you like her, but you wanted something in return, you can force her to like you, as for your friend, try to ignore her as much as possible, run away from her, things like that, when she asks for money tell her you dont have any, unless you are rich.
Reply:i know it is hard i have been here but listen...if it is meant to be then it will happen but until that support her and be her friend once somethin bad happens she will prolly realize you are a great guy and give u a chance...you can't push love....love is brought to those who wait!
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