I don't know what to do anymore!? Please Help!?

I really like this girl that I have known for about a year now. We are friends however I like her more than a friend and she knows it. I have sent flowers to her school on valentines day, I have given her and her friends rides, I bring her lunch when she is hungry, etc. I did ask her a while ago if she liked me more than a friend and she said "I don't know, its hard, I like u as a friend though". We have been hanging out a lot, and she does sometimes call me but I think its out of sympathy because she knows I like her. Today I'm a little upset and heartbroken because even though she won't admit it to me, I know she likes another guy a lot. Her best friend told me, and there are other signs that point to her liking him. My situation is now that I found out that she dosen't like me despite all of the things I have done for her, is that her friend is taking advantage of me being really nice. Her friend is constantly almost everyday asking me for favors such as borrowing her $ etc. .......

I don't know what to do anymore!? Please Help!?
Get over it, there will be more women out there who will like you, and not pretend to like you just so you do things for them.
Reply:First of all, it appears to me that you lack a back bone. I don't mean that rudely by no means. What I mean is that you seem like the type that'll cater to this girls every desire and wish w/ the hopes that she will respond with affection for you. Unfortunately, girls don't operate that way. We tend to be more attracted to guys with confidence. Men who aren't easily taken advantage of etc... We want to feel that he is almost untouchable like if we thought a guy would be totally fine if we weren't around we would want them to notice us all the more. Basically, I would back off and be unavailable to her for a while. Tell her you're busy when you might not be and surely do not drop what you are doing or have planned to cater to her. It is a huge turn-off. Have you ever heard of the saying, "you want what you can't have"? Same thing in this instance. Also, be prepared to know that she may be interested in this other guy, but act like it doesn't faze you and she'll be wondering why you aren't bothered. Us girls don't like to feel rejected and we find ways to not feel that way. If you are too easy to get then it's not very attractive. I know, "The nice guys always finish last" However, I am speaking from most women's perspective. Good Luck. I hope she realizes your worth, but please I beg you not to be a doormat anymore!!!
Reply:Ok, time for some hard lessons:





1) Once you are in the "friend" category, it's all but impossible to get to the "boyfriend" category.





2) You cannot give that much attention to one girl. When you're that young, most girls are going after attention more than anything else. If she sees you have other people (i.e. people more important than her) it triggers a competition response (where she competes with others for you).





3) You can't bend and give her everything. That makes a good friend, not a good boyfriend.





Move along young grasshopper and take what I have taught you to heart.
Reply:Awwwww!! Thats horrible! Just tell her you love her and you will never think of her the same way. If I was that friend I would LOVE you back!! You sound SOOOOOOOOOOO sweet!! Mabye her friend likes you. If she doesnt like you, something is seriously wrong with her!! Just tell her how you feel.
Reply:Maybe you should stop doing things for her and stop noticing her soooo much. If you pull away there is a good chance she will come after you. There is also the chance she will take it as you are over her. This is a hard decision but sometimes it works. The girl likes all the attention you give her. One day you stop and she wants to know why. You have to decide on your own what to do with this. Since you know her friends are using you, you should stop doing things for them.
Reply:Don't despair just yet. She likes you a lot or she wouldn't have anything to do with you at all.


She likes another guy. They might even date but that doesn't mean she will never fall in love with you.





I say this because I fell in love with a guy friend of mine after several failed relationships with other guys.





If you really do love her a lot, then just hang in there and be there for her when things start to fall apart.


You can win a girl's heart that way.





The part about her saying, "it's hard", when you asked her if she liked you more than just a friend..... That could mean that it's hard for her to tell. She might be thinking about you in that way but doesn't know for sure yet.





Give it a few more weeks and tell her how you feel. Tell her it's ok if she doesn't feel the same way. Tell her you will always be her friend no matter what. That will make her feel more comfortable about being with you. She won't feel pressured.





It happens all the time. Time and patience will tell if the two of you were ever meant to be.





About her girlfriend using you. That's got to stop.
Reply:First of all, you can still be her friend whether she likes you for more than that or not. At your age %26amp; hers, it's more important to have that friend around especially if she dates jerks and will need a shoulder to cry on.


Secondly, stop letting her friend take advantage of you. IS she making promises to hook you guys up or something? Grow a pair and tell her no, it's not going to make her friend like you more. Just keep being the nice thoughtful guy you are and don't let people take advantage of you. That will make her think less of you in the long run.
Reply:Well, nice guys seem to finish last. At least that's what my son has experienced with young women. I think that you should find a nice girl that's looking for a nice guy, cause this girl is a user, and wants a bad boy it sounds like, not a nice guy. Some girls are that way, go figure. I would cut off doing anything for either girl, and go find a decent one. Good luck!
Reply:Easy. She doesn't dig you as a romantic partner; she said it clearly, "I like you as a friend." Men don't listen and women don't lie. Don't let your ego get in the way; it blinds you to the truth. Move on.





And next time, don't give a girl anything until she deserves it. From your context, I can tell that you gave her a "I'm too happy to be here with you" and "Loooovee me, please" message. Girls don't like needy guys (aka Wimpus Americanus). A lot of guys think they can buy women off; you can only buy Mercenaries and Gold Diggers off, but classy good women cannot be bought.





I cannot stress enough the gauging of the woman's Interest Level. She doesn't care about how much YOU like her. She only cares about how much SHE likes you. So if she has at least 51% Interest Level in you (meaning you have a chance), she'll let you know.





So next time remember that women want Confidence, Self-Control, and Challenge. Self-control meaning that you don't get mushy, don't buy her a zillion things, etc. Challenge means that you are hard to get; she has to earn you, not the other way around. You spend scarce amount of time with her, you don't do whatever she asks, you don't be a chump for her friends, etc.
Reply:i say tell the girl you like how you feel adn that you really really wanna give you two a chance....maybe she will realize that your the one she wants more than that other guy and love you for the rest of your days...


now about her friend





i say who the frick carees about her friends..tell the friend straight up no...and if the friend don't like it and complains to the girl you like, tell the girl whats been happening and if she is truely the great person you know she is..she will take ur side





good luck





god bless


luv,


Shannon
Reply:This sort of thing has happened to me before and even though your heart broken their is something you can always do. Forget about her dude I'm a guy and if all you do is go home and think about her after you've taken her to places and what not then that's not what it's all aobut you've got to go out their and find a girl that likes you and that you can really have a lot of fun with. See how that works and if you still like this other girl then go back to her.
Reply:you sound you like you were just doing favors so the girl that you like would like you, not because you wanted to, i mean you wanted to because you like her, but you wanted something in return, you can force her to like you, as for your friend, try to ignore her as much as possible, run away from her, things like that, when she asks for money tell her you dont have any, unless you are rich.
Reply:i know it is hard i have been here but listen...if it is meant to be then it will happen but until that support her and be her friend once somethin bad happens she will prolly realize you are a great guy and give u a chance...you can't push love....love is brought to those who wait!