Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Appropriate expression of Sympathy?

A friend of mine passed away Friday night. She had three grown daughters, one of which, is also a friend (not a close friend, but a friend nevertheless) At any rate, both she and her daughter belonged to the Baha'i Faith. I know NOTHING about this religion....I don't know what they believe, what their practices are, etc. I don't know if they believe in the same God that I do. I want to send a Sympathy card, but want to send one that is appropriate and will not offend her daughter (religion-wise) Also, is it inappropriate to send flowers? Can anyone help me with this? If you know anything about this faith I would be very interested to learn a few things about it. Thanks

Appropriate expression of Sympathy?
A few years back, when I was a student, I covered a meeting of the University Bahai group for the newspaper. They proved to be the MOST lovely, sensitive, warm group of people. I'm sure that any genuine expression of sympathy and support will be most welcomed by them.





As long as you are being sincere, and it really sounds as though you are, then that's all that matters - the exact wording etc won't matter.
Reply:Send flowers, send a card expressing your care and love... no one could possibly be offended by that... they are alot like Universalists...
Reply:Baha'i is a collaberation of Judaism, Christianity and Islam. They believe in all the prophets of like every religion, and definitely believe in the same God you do.
Reply:I know nothing of baha'i... but I do know that being available for a hug, and to honestly listen without judgment is the greatest gift you can give to someone who is grieving.





edit - you can find some info at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bah%C3%A1'%...





they seem reasonable folk to deal with.
Reply:I would just write a short note and let her know that you are thinking of her and are there if she wants to talk.
Reply:I dont think that the bahai would object to anything you felt you needed to send. My understanding is that they are tolerant to any religion.
Reply:I don't know about it, but a generic type of card, saying I wish to express my sympathy should be good for any faith. No matter what the belief, people grieve over the loss of loved ones.
Reply:Precious one - please allow me to first express my sympathy to YOUR loss. I am so deeply sorry to learn you have lost a friend.





I cannot help you with their faith system, as I am Christian... but I know that all dear peoples appreciate the heartfelt words of a friend who shares in their deep grief.





I pray that you - as they - are able to find comfort in this difficult time, dear one.





Peace.
Reply:A simple: "May God be of comfort to you in this time of grief", would be welcome I'm sure. I know of no prohibition in Bahai againse flowers, so by all means send them. The Bahai tend to be very tolerant and easy going, so even if there is some stricture in Bahai against flowers, they will still appreciate the gesture coming from you.


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