What to send to a person who lost 2 babies?

My Uncle's son's wife was pregnant with 2 twin girls. She had some test run to see if any of the babies had developed retardation. And someone screwed up, and both the babies died. She is now deathly ill herself. What should we send up North as a sympathy/ get well soon. Anything buy flowers or food.

What to send to a person who lost 2 babies?
They were running tests to see if the babies had developed retardation? Never heard of it. Maybe an Amniocentesis to see if the babies had Downs? And it made her sick? Very odd circumstances. I think if I were them I would do some checking on that, doesn't sound right.


Anyway, nothing you send her is going to make her feel better so just make it a sympathy card. She is not going to enjoy anything right now.
Reply:y not flowers??? flowers with baloons are a great idea.
Reply:What about looking for some lovely, meaning poems that would suit the situation, on the net. Something possibly about babies being angels from heaven that are forever with us that sort of thing. Then select a good one and print it out on paper and put it in a nice photo frame. She will have a beautiful momento of her babies and will know how much you cared about them and her. Something that acknowledges her loss will help her.








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I found these quotes and thought they might be something lovely to have written in a card for them, especially the first one. It seems to sum it all up...
Reply:write a really personal/ heart warming letter. there really isnt anything that will help, but a poem or something would be nice.





Make her a scrapbook, of all the good times together or soemthing..





i think the best thing to do would be to go see her, how bad would you feel if she didnt make it, and you stayed home to watch house reruns and eat popcorn





im not trying to be insensitive but really...think about it..
Reply:flowers,ballons,a card.
Reply:Honestly the best thing to send would be something as simple as a card with your sympathies expressed in it. My wife and I lost our son last year and we received a lot of flowers which were nice but they ended up dying and giving us a huge mess to clean up.Since we really didn't have the time to deal with the mess with all the arrangements that had to be made it would have been nice not deal with them, not to mention our whole house was covered in flowers so it looked like a florist. Personally I loved the cards we received because they were heart felt and they let me know that we had friends and family there to support us and that is all you can ask for. If you really feel that you need to get them something I would offer to send them some money towards the funeral if that has not happened yet or also we had a lot of people make donations to a charity in our sons name. I hope this helps.
Reply:some really nice flowers and a card
Reply:Just a card, with a hand written letter/note. She isn't going to be the least bit interested in gifts right now. If you can go see her, that would probably mean a lot. If you can't, maybe you should send a card and call her as well. If she likes teddy bears or something like that, that might be ok to send as well. But I wouldn't send anything that says "get well soon" on it. It seems off, considering they just lost 2 babies. Good luck.
Reply:beauitiful flowers are always a good choice. try cheery ones.. you know maybe something with sunflowers!
Reply:gift cards for food or the grocery, or other services that tend to get put off when dealing with a tradgedy...house cleaning, laundry service..just ask to help with anything..when we lost my father in law someone sent us a gift card to WalMart- this was meant for getting gas as we were drivng back and forth to his hospital and then home ( 200 miles). It really helped. I am sure there is some beautiful angel twin sculpture/ art piece out there that might be a nice thing to send--- there is a line called Willow Tree, beautiful little angels...and a childrens book called Angel Babies. Do they have names? You can name a star for them- really, look on line...and Toys R Us sells little stuffed animals that have coordinates for stars that you then go online and name for a person... Then they (parents)can look up and always see the babies in the heavens...
Reply:I fruit basket with a poem possibly or a letter of sympathy..








poems seem like they wouldn't be a good idea, but they usually are nice little things to read!








that is so sad though.. my deepest sympathy
Reply:u must find a bick for thay
Reply:I would say if you could...YOU...I am not sure how far away from her you live.





Just be there for her to talk to, to laugh, and to cry! Nothing any one give or say will make her feel better! Having someone to Lean on...a shoulder to cry on!
Reply:wot realy can you send, try a card and maybe a voucher for a spa day?
Reply:Get a gift card for a day at the spa or maybe like Victoria secret gift card something to help make her feel good.
Reply:send her a card with some poems in it