Tuesday, April 28, 2009

How much money should I send with a sympathy card?

The deceased is a 6 yr old boy in my neighborhood. He was run over by his school bus. I know his Mom just from the neighborhood. Her loss has touched my heart. I wanted to send money instead of flowers but I don't want to send an offensive amount. Is $25 too little?

How much money should I send with a sympathy card?
Honestly, I've never heard of sending money in a sympathy card. I have close friends that have lost loved ones and their main concern is that the deceased persons memory is kept alive. Once spent, money is often forgotten. My idea would be to buy some children's books and donate them to the library, inscribing them with "in memory of....." His memory will live on and the books will be read by other children his age.
Reply:I think that is fine to send and you are very sweet to care like that .What a sad thing to happen .


God bless 'ya .
Reply:no
Reply:what ever you can offer. $25 dollars is fine., last year a 4th grad











er was run over by a bus too. any amount will be appreciate


some people don't have Life Ins. any amount help. to bury your love one.
Reply:I think it's not the price of the card but what the card reads .
Reply:25 is just fine to send .It's the thought that counts and you are very thoughtful for even sending anything.
Reply:I think that I would just send flowers, you can never go wrong with that.
Reply:just send flowers. money seems a little mean, or like u were in a hurry. flowers are from the heart and are special. but i think its very sweet that u care so much.
Reply:IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS. THE CARD AND MONEY WILL BE FINE!THE WORLD NEEDS MORE CARING PEOPLE IN IT. THANK YOU FOR CARING!GOD BLESS YOU!HAVE A NICE DAY!
Reply:Money may not be appropriate for the loss of a loved one. Some people may see it as charity instead of a gift, and some people are very touchy about accepting charity. If you know for a fact that she's really hard up for money and is having trouble paying funeral expenses, then money might be okay, but otherwise I'd be cautious.


Instead, donate the money to a good cause as a memorial to the boy. Ask around - the family may have a favorite group or church that they would like to support.
Reply:I think a card and a live plant would be better. I still have all the plants I received from when my son died 6 years ago.
Reply:DONT SEND MONEY!!!!!! are you nuts??? what is she going to do with it??? buy a 12 pack and call it a night??? send her flowers!!! there are places she can take them to have them framed and kept for memorials...if it were the other way around and the mom died and left a small child behind you could start a fundraiser to put the kid through college or something...thats what happened to me...my mom died when i was eight and people raised money in a trust fund for my college education...something my mom couldnt give me anymore...DO NOT SEND THE MOM MONEY!!!! an empty card and nothing else would be better than sending her money and a card!
Reply:I would make a donation to a childrens charity in the childs name, or if you live in a close knit neighborhood, perhaps get a collection from all the neighbors and present it to the family to help cover their costs, so they have one less thing to worry about.
Reply:i would send flowers or make a donation in the little boy's name in a place that is meaningful to the family
Reply:$50.00 min.


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