A co-worker's father just died in a car accident. Should I send something? more details..?

I just started my job about a month ago and a member of management (for a different department) just lost his father in a car accident. I haven't met this employee yet (he is always on the road) but we have corresponded through emails. Anyway, here's the catch. I'm trying to get my husband a job here and he is the manager who will do the hiring for the position. We've emailed briefly about the position and he has my husbands resume. The day after he got it, his dad died and he's been out for the week. I assume he'll be back in on Monday. I don't want to bother him about the resume right away but I also don't want him to forget about it.





Here's what I'm getting at... Should I get him %26amp; his family a sympathy card? I was going to send flowers but they are expensive and obviously, I'm the only one working right now. I want my husband to get the job but I don't want to bother the guy...





Should I get a card even though I don't really know him?

A co-worker's father just died in a car accident. Should I send something? more details..?
Yes...a card from you and your husband is perfectly appropriate. Consider making a charitable donation in memory of his father. Did they have one listed in the obituary? If you do make a donation to a charity...generally, they'll notify the family of your donation...but won't mention the amount you donated (so...$20 or so is an inexpensive way to make a good and memorable impression....without being obvious that you want your husband to gain employment.)
Reply:Much better than a card would be a very short handwritten note expressing sympathy.
Reply:i think that it is a great idea. it makes you seem like genuinely good people that would make proud additions to the company.
Reply:I also feel it would be a kind gesture. I have done the same for classmates, teachers and co-workers in the past. In times like this, those who are left really do appreciate everyone's kindness, no matter who they are.
Reply:Here's what usually occurs. Someone in management usually sends around a sympathy card for "everyone" to sign. And since you are new, that's all that's expected of you, to sign a card. Management "might" send flowers as a company gesture and may or may not send a card along with it. If you knew the person who's parent died, had worked with them closely for six months or more, then you would send a sympathy to her/him only to the home address. If you were a member of a management team and worked with them on many projects then you might consider dropping off food the morning of the funeral (just drop it off and leave).
Reply:If flowers aren't in your budget do send a nice sympathy card
Reply:You should go around and collect money from your co-workers and send him flowers and a card as a group
Reply:I vote for the card signed by you and your husband. Obviously both this manager and your husband know of each other and its appropriate to include him.


I would not send flowers or a monetary donation, you aren't close friends and you don't want it to look like you are "buying favor."
Reply:A sympathy card is the appropriate thing to do. Given the situation, have your husband sign it personally also. make sure your signatures are big. Have other co-workers sign the card also.This step adds to the touch of affection and will take the immediate focus off the obvious.... "That you and your husband are the kind of team that make for desirable employees"
Reply:It would be a nice gesture to do. It's saying, 'I care and I'm here for support,' regardless that you know him. Who knows? Maybe in the future he and you will become friends, and your husband'll get the job.
Reply:I think it would be a nice gesture on your part, not because of the possible job for your husband, but, because you correspond with him through e-mails (as a colleague). Best to your husband on the possible new job.
Reply:Send the card from yourself only.


Your participation will be overlooked if you include other employees and , since your husband and the manager are not personally acquainted, including his signature could be viewed as pushy.
Reply:I think getting him a card is nice. We pass around cards at our office and I sign it with well wishes even though I don't know them. Send him a card because you are truly sympathetic to his loss, NOT because you want something.