Monday, May 11, 2009

My Best friends dad just passed. Theyre samoan and I was wondering what can I take to show that I care.?

since they're samoan I see that they do different things then the usual Flowers and sympathy cards....

My Best friends dad just passed. Theyre samoan and I was wondering what can I take to show that I care.?
My friend is a Samoan married to a Jamaican. Their grandson died several years ago (he was an infant). I made dinner and put it in covered, foil pans they could heatup and I took it to them. They really appreciated it. My friend is a very devout Christian. I am not sure if most Samoans are as devout since I don't know any others aside from my friend.
Reply:Just bring flowers and/or a card. You're not Samoan. Any expression of sympathy will be appreciated.
Reply:When my love ones died I always brought a cake and visited with the family.
Reply:I know next to nothing about the Samoan culture, so I can't say exactly what would be appropriate. But I think since they live here, they might have a bit of American culture infused in them as well. There are things that I think are universally acceptable, and not offensive.. Flowers might be a bit akward, but food might be nice. Not casseroles and stuff, but maybe some type of dessert? Like a plain and simple one.. a bundt cake or some cookies even.. You could ask your best friend, if she seems strong enough to handle questions related to her dad's death.. You could just tell her that you'd like to bring something to show her family that you care, but wouldn't want to bring something inappropriate. If you know any of her relatives, like a cousin or aunt or even an older sister, you could also ask one of them the same question. I'm sure they will appreciate it very much, and love the fact that you cared so much.


No comments:

Post a Comment